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When the missus, or girlfiend asks her man; why do you love me .....?
Topic Started: Apr 29 2008, 11:39 AM (1,717 Views)
Sgt. Jaggs
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How about a Voyager Movie
HistoryDude
Apr 29 2008, 12:35 PM
I agree with what you're saying, Dante, but it is also still good to hear from time to time. In fact, I like to hear it, too, sometimes... ;)

:huh: I thought you were a dude too? :o This board is starting to get away from me....... :doh:
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Jag
Apr 30 2008, 01:30 AM
HistoryDude
Apr 29 2008, 12:35 PM
I agree with what you're saying, Dante, but it is also still good to hear from time to time.  In fact, I like to hear it, too, sometimes... ;)

:huh: I thought you were a dude too? :o This board is starting to get away from me....... :doh:

I posted the song to support HistoryDude. It is the man asking the woman the question about love.
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digifan2004
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Well, I think Billy Joel got it right when he wrote and sang "I love you just the way you are." :wub:

Personally I was thrilled when Sandy said she loves me. I still cherish that special moment. :)
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When the missus, or girlfiend asks her man, why do you love me .....?

The best thing to do is change the subject. :o

j/k :P


Intrepid2002
Apr 29 2008, 06:07 PM

Would you appreciate it if your wife or girlfriend told you every once in a while she loved you? 

Does it make her a weaker person for saying it?  Do actions speak louder than words?

I'd definitely appreciate it. I'd consider her a strong person for it. But I think love is a two person thing, so I'd be compelled to reciprocate. :yes:
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Apr 29 2008, 09:11 PM
Data's Cat's Sister
Apr 29 2008, 04:05 PM
Wow.  :ermm:

I'd be really hurt if I'd asked a significant other why/if he loved me and he just rolled his eyes or gave me a flippant reply.

If you knew for sure that the person loved you you wouldn't have to ask. Maybe your signifcant others ask because they are feeling insecure? Or maybe they just want to hear it.

How hard is it to show a little affection? What does it cost you?

To whom are you addressing this, DCS?

Sorry I missed you asking me this.

I was addressing it generally to everyone in thread.

I just don't buy this 'You should know because I do this, this and this business'. There are plenty of people who are devoted to their families out of a sense of duty and obligation. And who amongst us doesn't know that man who was a devoted husband and father, went to work every day, paid the bills . . . and then got found out for having an affair or just plain walked out.

I don't blame women who don't take actions at face value as proof of love. Sometimes you need to hear it too.
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Dandandat
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digifan2004
May 1 2008, 10:42 AM
Well, I think Billy Joel got it right when he wrote  and sang "I love you just the way you are."  :wub:

I agree;

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Don't go changing, to try and please me,
You never let me down before,
Don't imagine, you're too familiar,
And I don't see you anymore.

I would not leave you, in times of trouble,
We never could have come this far,
I took the good times, I'll take the bad times,
I'll take you just the way you are.

Don't go trying, some new fashion,
Don't change the colour of your hair,
You always have my, unspoken passion,
Although I might not seem to care.


I don't want clever, conversation,
I never want to work that hard,
I just want someone, that I can talk to,
I want you just the way you are.

I need to know that you will always be
The same old someone that I knew,
What will it take till you believe in me,
The way that I believe in you?


I said [paste tense] I love you, and that's forever, 
And this I promise from the heart,
I couldn't love you, any better,
I love you just the way you are.

I don't want clever, conversation,
I never want to work that hard,
I just want someone, that I can talk to,
I want you just the way you are.
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Dandandat
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Data's Cat's Sister
May 3 2008, 11:46 AM
I just don't buy this 'You should know because I do this, this and this business'. There are plenty of people who are devoted to their families out of a sense of duty and obligation. And who amongst us doesn't know that man who was a devoted husband and father, went to work every day, paid the bills . . . and then got found out for having an affair or just plain walked out.

I don't blame women who don't take actions at face value as proof of love. Sometimes you need to hear it too.

How many of those cheaters and walker-outers said "Yes I love you" when asked by their significant others? The question of an answer to “Do you love me?” does not grade you against those events.

However devoted husbands and fathers do not cheat or walk out on their families, there for those who cheat and walk out can’t be counted among those who show their families they love them through actions, because their actions “cheating” and “walking out” do not show love.

A sense of duty and obligation is a part of love; they are not separate issues.

Talk is cheap; actions are not (not always).

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Dandandat
May 4 2008, 05:36 PM
Talk is cheap; actions are not

Which is why some men and women can say that they are faithful and happily married till they're blue in the face, i'm still not going to believe them, their eyes tell a very different story
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captain_proton_au
May 5 2008, 02:57 PM
Dandandat
May 4 2008, 05:36 PM
Talk is cheap; actions are not

Which is why some men and women can say that they are faithful and happily married till they're blue in the face, i'm still not going to believe them, their eyes tell a very different story

Really ?

Your basis for that is .... ?
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Dandandat
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somerled
May 5 2008, 09:12 AM
captain_proton_au
May 5 2008, 02:57 PM
Dandandat
May 4 2008, 05:36 PM
Talk is cheap; actions are not

Which is why some men and women can say that they are faithful and happily married till they're blue in the face, i'm still not going to believe them, their eyes tell a very different story

Really ?

Your basis for that is .... ?

There eyes :P
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somerled
May 5 2008, 09:12 AM
captain_proton_au
May 5 2008, 02:57 PM
Dandandat
May 4 2008, 05:36 PM
Talk is cheap; actions are not

Which is why some men and women can say that they are faithful and happily married till they're blue in the face, i'm still not going to believe them, their eyes tell a very different story

Really ?

Your basis for that is .... ?

Couldn't you tell when he looked in your eyes Somerled? B}

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Intrepid2002
May 6 2008, 02:18 AM
somerled
May 5 2008, 09:12 AM
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May 5 2008, 02:57 PM
Dandandat
May 4 2008, 05:36 PM
Talk is cheap; actions are not

Which is why some men and women can say that they are faithful and happily married till they're blue in the face, i'm still not going to believe them, their eyes tell a very different story

Really ?

Your basis for that is .... ?

Couldn't you tell when he looked in your eyes Somerled? B}

Nope ... fraid not .... :huh:

I never even knew CPA was hitched ....when did that happen ?

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somerled
May 5 2008, 01:09 PM
Intrepid2002
May 6 2008, 02:18 AM
somerled
May 5 2008, 09:12 AM
captain_proton_au
May 5 2008, 02:57 PM
Dandandat
May 4 2008, 05:36 PM
Talk is cheap; actions are not

Which is why some men and women can say that they are faithful and happily married till they're blue in the face, i'm still not going to believe them, their eyes tell a very different story

Really ?

Your basis for that is .... ?

Couldn't you tell when he looked in your eyes Somerled? B}

Nope ... fraid not .... :huh:

I never even knew CPA was hitched ....when did that happen ?


You mean you didn't get the invitation? That explains it, we where all wondering why as the closest Sister Trek member you didn’t bother to show up.
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somerled
May 5 2008, 07:12 AM
captain_proton_au
May 5 2008, 02:57 PM
Dandandat
May 4 2008, 05:36 PM
Talk is cheap; actions are not

Which is why some men and women can say that they are faithful and happily married till they're blue in the face, i'm still not going to believe them, their eyes tell a very different story

Really ?

Your basis for that is .... ?

Has to do with what someone like 38957 is or will be an expert on


What 1/2 the gay male population starts training from around 5 yrs old, a guy with a younger sister starts around 7 yrs old, a guy whos first kid is a girl starts from when the daughter is 2 or so.

Being trained to look into that girls eyes more to get that adorable daughter look, its programmed into girls when they pop out to look for a certain set of eye and facial patterns in guys bigger than them and father figures and look into there eyes and bond with / subdue them, when that bond happens its sets of a little endorphin rush that makes both the girl and guy a little bit happier.

So the guy who's first kid is a daughter gets hooked on that little endorphin rush, starts looking for it more in other girls and other women (of any age, it never goes away). Starts looking at all girls eyes more, then human eye / facial recognition software kicks in, an it just becomes a matter of time spent matching all the different looks with different behaviours and they get better at reading girls than the average.

I know you have a daughter, doesnt mean you love her any less, just that , if I remember correctly you also have two sons, so its just about amount of time able to give attention to her which isnt infinite.


Its why guys that have a younger sister do better with women, guys that have the first kid a girl understand women better, and that half of the gay male population get on well with girls (although its not something a guy should work out before he starts thinking of sex, part of the reason they end up gay).


So back to reading the eyes of married couples, if the wife says they are happily married and you look to the hubby who looks like he's about to shoot himself, you know better, or the hubby says they are happily married and the wife is giving you sexy looks, you know better


Not all humans are equal in this regard, its all experience, time spent looking at eyes and faces as well as the number, so someone in a job where they see lots of people will be better at it than a guy that sits by himself in an office all day
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May 6 2008, 03:33 AM
somerled
May 5 2008, 01:09 PM
Intrepid2002
May 6 2008, 02:18 AM
somerled
May 5 2008, 09:12 AM
captain_proton_au
May 5 2008, 02:57 PM
Dandandat
May 4 2008, 05:36 PM
Talk is cheap; actions are not

Which is why some men and women can say that they are faithful and happily married till they're blue in the face, i'm still not going to believe them, their eyes tell a very different story

Really ?

Your basis for that is .... ?

Couldn't you tell when he looked in your eyes Somerled? B}

Nope ... fraid not .... :huh:

I never even knew CPA was hitched ....when did that happen ?


You mean you didn't get the invitation? That explains it, we where all wondering why as the closest Sister Trek member you didn’t bother to show up.

I'm crushed .... I expected to at least be a groomsman .... :huh:
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