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Would you let your teenage daughter go out with a boy who is like how you was at that age ?
Yes - I was a perfect gentleman and a saint , she'll be perfectly safe. 2 (33.3%)
Yes - but only because telling her no would make her even more determined to go out with him, so saying no will stop her. 1 (16.7%)
Yes - but I would make sure she was on the pill and had a good supply of condoms. 1 (16.7%)
Yes - but only if shaperoned by an elder brother or male cousin who is RESPONSIBLE. 0 (0%)
Yes - but only if she comes from a rich family. 0 (0%)
Yes - but only if he doesn't have a car. 0 (0%)
No way. 1 (16.7%)
I'm not sure. 1 (16.7%)
Total Votes: 6
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Topic Started: Dec 2 2007, 10:06 AM (692 Views)
somerled
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Admiral MacDonald RN
If you don't have a teenage daught , imagine how you would respond.





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Fesarius
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We don't allow dating in our family (for either our sons or our daughters).
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somerled
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Yes - but only because telling her no would make her even more determined to go out with him, so saying no will not stop her.

My daughter has brought home a new boyfriend and he is 2 years older than her and has a car (he is her first boyfriend who isn't a fellow pupil or a classmate, a gymnast or a dancer) . She is quite smitten by him (he's the only thing she talks about) and he put on his very best behaviour when she brought him home and introduced him to us. (I didn't buy it for a second , nor did her brother who is very protective of his kid sister.)

She knows my rules and I wanted to meet him face to face and READ HIM THE RIOT ACT.

They will never be allowed in the house alone together or any room together with door shut (I know where that might lead , if he's anything like I was in my teens.) . Not that I don't trust my daughter , who is very level headed , just that I wouldn't be able to trust him unless I get to know him very well.
I can't stop them being alone in his car , hopefully the curfew will cramp this style and she has promised always to have at least one friend with her.

There is also a curfew imposed , and woe betide him if he doesn't comply.

When she turns 18 , she can do as she pleases , but she is not yet 18.
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Dec 2 2007, 11:29 AM
We don't allow dating in our family (for either our sons or our daughters).

how come?
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I could take a page out of Bill Engval's book and tell him this quote

"I'd pull him in real tight so only he and I could hear. And I'd tell him. see that, she's my pride and joy, my little angle. You do anything to her rememebr this. "I got no problem going back to Prison."


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'Skid,

We do allow courtship, as opposed to dating. It is more bible-centered, and it is one of the ways we are preparing our children to be chaste.
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As a teenager, I was a complete gentleman. I was the the kind of guy who parents would trust with their daughter. I wish my oldest daughter would find a gentleman, instead of the hoodlums she dates.
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Dec 2 2007, 09:00 PM
'Skid,

We do allow courtship, as opposed to dating. It is more bible-centered, and it is one of the ways we are preparing our children to be chaste.

Fes,

Just curious. How do you define 'courtship' and 'dating', and hence the difference between the two?

:)
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Yes - but I would make sure she was on the pill and had a good supply of condoms.

That would be my approach. I'd rather my kids (daughters and sons) be informed and empowered, so they can make their own choices. I sincerely hope my kids would be able to talk to me about this stuff as well, to trust me, so that I then have the best chance to guide them as best I can. If they keep secrets from you because you're out of synch with their values, their generation, there's no communication and you can't help them. :no:

P.S. I was actually a perfect gentleman. I've just become naughty with age :evil1:
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fireh8er
Dec 2 2007, 05:38 PM
As a teenager, I was a complete gentleman. I was the the kind of guy who parents would trust with their daughter. I wish my oldest daughter would find a gentleman, instead of the hoodlums she dates.

you could go with a classic aproach to frighten those types away.

when he arrives, just be sitting on your porch, with the good ol Double Barrel. and the straw hat. :lol:


I am not a perfect gentelman, but nor bad boy. just the average joe.
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UNGH!
'Bad boy' types were always appealing. Especially when daddy and mom put their foot down and said, "No, you can't go out with him."
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Intrepid2002
Dec 2 2007, 04:01 PM
'Bad boy' types were always appealing. Especially when daddy and mom put their foot down and said, "No, you can't go out with him."



Darn, I just sold my low-rider. :lol:



Yeah, I'd let my daughter go out with a young version of me.


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Intrepid2002
Dec 2 2007, 04:01 PM
'Bad boy' types were always appealing. Especially when daddy and mom put their foot down and said, "No, you can't go out with him."

Ain't that the truth, Ruth! :P
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This ol' bad boy knew all the tricks .... and hasn't forgotten them.

She is under age and woe betide him if he gives her alcohol , and there will be lots of blood on the wattle if he gives her drugs or deflowers her.

If he drinks and drives in the presence of my daughter , it's not the police who he should be scared off , it's me , this will still apply if they are still an item after she turns 18.

If he hits her , and I find out about it , I will hit him even harder and then I will bring in the cops and press charges.

In fact if he does anything that hurts, harms or endangers my daughter , .... well he better not if he wants to stay healthy and mobile.
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Just curious. How do you define 'courtship' and 'dating', and hence the difference between the two?

STC,

There is a biblical basis for remaining pure (as in a courtship) in the eyes of God. This does not in any way involve dating as is often defined by today's society. Beyond that, it is really not a topic I wish to discuss publicly. :)
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