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Topic Started: Jul 16 2007, 01:08 PM (544 Views)
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somerled
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Aug 6 2007, 09:35 AM
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Of course I'm not the pregnant 18 yr old, still, I'm sure we all knew at least one girl in high school that couldnt wait to be a mum (usually the ones that had their head on straightest)
back in high school we had a few of those. nothing like being 17 and getting knocked up. I personally don't want kids until 30's.
Nope, nothing like it........
It's rough especially when the father dosn't have the balls to stay with the child and mother.
He stayed around for about 3 years, and we even lived together. But we're better off without him. I won't go into detail, but I'd rather leave him off the hook for child support payments(which he never pays anyway) than have him see my daughter once a year and get her hopes up for a relationship with her father. But I can't and won't stop her from seeing him. If I were to do it all over...as much as I love my daughter, I wouldn't have any kids. If I did, I'd adopt. Probably in my 30's.
Answer only if you want to.
1) do the paternal grandparents and his siblings have anything to do with your kiddy ? They should , but that's just my opinion , and she deserves contact with the paternal family.
2) what kind of man does not support his offspring ?
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Mel
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Aug 6 2007, 10:27 AM
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- somerled
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- rowskid86
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- Mel
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- rowskid86
- Aug 6 2007, 12:38 AM
- captain_proton_au
- Jul 17 2007, 01:14 PM
Of course I'm not the pregnant 18 yr old, still, I'm sure we all knew at least one girl in high school that couldnt wait to be a mum (usually the ones that had their head on straightest)
back in high school we had a few of those. nothing like being 17 and getting knocked up. I personally don't want kids until 30's.
Nope, nothing like it........
It's rough especially when the father dosn't have the balls to stay with the child and mother.
He stayed around for about 3 years, and we even lived together. But we're better off without him. I won't go into detail, but I'd rather leave him off the hook for child support payments(which he never pays anyway) than have him see my daughter once a year and get her hopes up for a relationship with her father. But I can't and won't stop her from seeing him. If I were to do it all over...as much as I love my daughter, I wouldn't have any kids. If I did, I'd adopt. Probably in my 30's.
Answer only if you want to. 1) do the paternal grandparents and his siblings have anything to do with your kiddy ? They should , but that's just my opinion , and she deserves contact with the paternal family. 2) what kind of man does not support his offspring ?
1) About as often as the father(ie, christmas...) They don't even contact her for her birthday.
2) A jerk.
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somerled
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Aug 6 2007, 11:16 AM
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- Mel
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- rowskid86
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- Jul 17 2007, 01:14 PM
Of course I'm not the pregnant 18 yr old, still, I'm sure we all knew at least one girl in high school that couldnt wait to be a mum (usually the ones that had their head on straightest)
back in high school we had a few of those. nothing like being 17 and getting knocked up. I personally don't want kids until 30's.
Nope, nothing like it........
It's rough especially when the father dosn't have the balls to stay with the child and mother.
He stayed around for about 3 years, and we even lived together. But we're better off without him. I won't go into detail, but I'd rather leave him off the hook for child support payments(which he never pays anyway) than have him see my daughter once a year and get her hopes up for a relationship with her father. But I can't and won't stop her from seeing him. If I were to do it all over...as much as I love my daughter, I wouldn't have any kids. If I did, I'd adopt. Probably in my 30's.
Answer only if you want to. 1) do the paternal grandparents and his siblings have anything to do with your kiddy ? They should , but that's just my opinion , and she deserves contact with the paternal family. 2) what kind of man does not support his offspring ?
1) About as often as the father(ie, christmas...) They don't even contact her for her birthday. 2) A jerk.
1. That's sad for your kiddy.
2. Yes - that sums up what I think of him too. I wonder if he is a serial inseminator and makes a habit of fathering children only to abandon them.
A single loving and responsible parent is better than parents who hate each other.
You should have his income docked by the courts in order to force him to contribute, why should he get off scot free .
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Mel
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Aug 6 2007, 12:55 PM
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Of course I'm not the pregnant 18 yr old, still, I'm sure we all knew at least one girl in high school that couldnt wait to be a mum (usually the ones that had their head on straightest)
back in high school we had a few of those. nothing like being 17 and getting knocked up. I personally don't want kids until 30's.
Nope, nothing like it........
It's rough especially when the father dosn't have the balls to stay with the child and mother.
He stayed around for about 3 years, and we even lived together. But we're better off without him. I won't go into detail, but I'd rather leave him off the hook for child support payments(which he never pays anyway) than have him see my daughter once a year and get her hopes up for a relationship with her father. But I can't and won't stop her from seeing him. If I were to do it all over...as much as I love my daughter, I wouldn't have any kids. If I did, I'd adopt. Probably in my 30's.
Answer only if you want to. 1) do the paternal grandparents and his siblings have anything to do with your kiddy ? They should , but that's just my opinion , and she deserves contact with the paternal family. 2) what kind of man does not support his offspring ?
1) About as often as the father(ie, christmas...) They don't even contact her for her birthday. 2) A jerk.
1. That's sad for your kiddy. 2. Yes - that sums up what I think of him too. I wonder if he is a serial inseminator and makes a habit of fathering children only to abandon them. A single loving and responsible parent is better than parents who hate each other. You should have his income docked by the courts in order to force him to contribute, why should he get off scot free .
That's what was being done recently. If he worked, then I would receive a check for about 50$, if he doesn't work(which is usually the case), then I get nothing.
I've gotten 3 payments (last spring) in the 7 years we've been apart.
It wouldn't bother me a bit if he got off scot free, if he wouldn't pretend to be a dad.
Oh and he does have one other daughter with another girl. They broke up too a couple of years ago. I don't think he sees her either, but I heard that the mother keeps anyone from his family from seeing the child.
I know deep down he means well, but he's too lazy to do anything about it, and he's just always been a loser. He lives on welfare most of the time in a one room apartment(when I say one, I don't mean a bedroom, I mean one ROOM only). Nothing wrong with welfare if you actually can't support yourself fully by working,when you have children but he doesn't need to pay for daycare or babysitters. And believe me, single persons with no children get less than 300$ a month. There's no point really. And I know he's not disabled. The only reason I can see him staying in the system, is avoiding paying child support(since he's got two now).
Ok enough rambling :lol: My daughter and I are doing great without him.
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Aug 6 2007, 01:21 PM
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- Aug 6 2007, 11:35 AM
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- rowskid86
- Aug 6 2007, 01:38 AM
- Mel
- Aug 6 2007, 12:18 AM
- rowskid86
- Aug 6 2007, 12:38 AM
- captain_proton_au
- Jul 17 2007, 01:14 PM
Of course I'm not the pregnant 18 yr old, still, I'm sure we all knew at least one girl in high school that couldnt wait to be a mum (usually the ones that had their head on straightest)
back in high school we had a few of those. nothing like being 17 and getting knocked up. I personally don't want kids until 30's.
Nope, nothing like it........
It's rough especially when the father dosn't have the balls to stay with the child and mother.
He stayed around for about 3 years, and we even lived together. But we're better off without him. I won't go into detail, but I'd rather leave him off the hook for child support payments(which he never pays anyway) than have him see my daughter once a year and get her hopes up for a relationship with her father. But I can't and won't stop her from seeing him. If I were to do it all over...as much as I love my daughter, I wouldn't have any kids. If I did, I'd adopt. Probably in my 30's.
Answer only if you want to. 1) do the paternal grandparents and his siblings have anything to do with your kiddy ? They should , but that's just my opinion , and she deserves contact with the paternal family. 2) what kind of man does not support his offspring ?
1) About as often as the father(ie, christmas...) They don't even contact her for her birthday. 2) A jerk.
1. That's sad for your kiddy. 2. Yes - that sums up what I think of him too. I wonder if he is a serial inseminator and makes a habit of fathering children only to abandon them. A single loving and responsible parent is better than parents who hate each other. You should have his income docked by the courts in order to force him to contribute, why should he get off scot free .
That's what was being done recently. If he worked, then I would receive a check for about 50$, if he doesn't work(which is usually the case), then I get nothing. I've gotten 3 payments (last spring) in the 7 years we've been apart. It wouldn't bother me a bit if he got off scot free, if he wouldn't pretend to be a dad. Oh and he does have one other daughter with another girl. They broke up too a couple of years ago. I don't think he sees her either, but I heard that the mother keeps anyone from his family from seeing the child. I know deep down he means well, but he's too lazy to do anything about it, and he's just always been a loser. He lives on welfare most of the time in a one room apartment(when I say one, I don't mean a bedroom, I mean one ROOM only). Nothing wrong with welfare if you actually can't support yourself fully by working,when you have children but he doesn't need to pay for daycare or babysitters. And believe me, single persons with no children get less than 300$ a month. There's no point really. And I know he's not disabled. The only reason I can see him staying in the system, is avoiding paying child support(since he's got two now). Ok enough rambling :lol: My daughter and I are doing great without him.
I know of a few example of delinguent fathers who choose not to work because when they do the courts have access to their earnings and they find money comes out of their pay cheque the same time as the tax comes out , in the cases I know of who behave this way , they behave thus to get back at the mum.
One of sisters had an ex who fathered 2 children and then turned nasty and started beating her , so she left him and took the girls with her , I don't think she has ever recieved a penny off him to support the girlls since, and he only works cash in hand and casual so he can avoid having his earnings garnished automatically (when tax is paid).
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Aug 10 2007, 03:31 PM
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Reading this reminds me of my sisters ex-husband. A thicker than two short planks no good layabout with his brains in his crotch. And that's me being polite about him.
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