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| Dating: A Lost Art; Tell us about your date from heck. | |
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| Tweet Topic Started: Jun 27 2007, 07:44 AM (797 Views) | |
| Intrepid2002 | Jun 27 2007, 07:44 AM Post #1 |
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Over the past weekend, I reconnected with three of my best friends from college. We did one *whacky* thing and talked about it the rest of the night and we reminisced about the "dates from heck". One Saturday night, this guy took me out for sushi. Yes, I love sushi and was looking forward to going to a really nice Japanese restaurant but it turned out to be one of those all-you-can-eat Chinese restaurants that had a little sushi on the side. You should never compromise on Sushi. At these kind of places I stick with what I think is thoroughly cooked. Never cheap out on sushi. Nevertheless, he ate enough sushi for the entire restaurant. I stuck with what was safe. He then disappeared for a while. After about 30 or 40 minutes, he came back looking like he went to war. He was sweaty and he had his belt in his hand. He told me he had stomach cramps and asked me if we should go to the ER. After he left for another extended period of time and came back, I politely told him that maybe we should call it a night and that I'd call him in a few days. Moral of the story: Never be cheap with sushi. |
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| ANOVA | Jun 27 2007, 08:14 AM Post #2 |
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Wow. Alway eat light and at restarants you've tried before on a first date. That's what I did. So whens the second date. Just as importantly, where? I'm telling you...miniture golf. |
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| somerled | Jun 27 2007, 08:19 AM Post #3 |
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I'm guessing that you wont hear from him again as you came across as cold and uncaring . I'm a bit disappointed in the attitude you've displayed , I thought better of you. It's not his fault that he became (seriously ill it seems) while with you (may have had nothing to do with the meal he shared with you). Have you checked back with him to find out how he is - I wonder ? When I was single I had a few disaster dates , some my fault, one where I had a prang while taking the girl and her little sister (the chapperone) to a dance (did wonders after the event when I overheard other guys at the dance asking what I had that they didn't , siince I walked in with two beautfiul girls arms around me (not just one and they both wanted to be with me), one where I had a very heavy head-flu (took her to a play, and blew my nose so much I had nose bleed (a bad one) - she knew me very well and that I don't suffer nose bleeds and she wound out driving my car to the local outpatients and stayed with me until the doctor said I would be OK at which point I drove her home (and appologised profusely for spoiling the night - I had planned to taking her to a nice restraunt after the place and maybe taking her to a night club afterward) we dated for several months after that - BTW she was my square dance team partner and we had danced together for a couple of years at that stage and were very friendly with each other) , and one where the date became very ill while out (she was a diabetic) and collapsed , I called an ambulence (I didn't she was diabetic at the time) and I followed her to the hospital from where I called her parents and they told me about here illness and we waited for her to be released , what a great way to be introduced to mum and dad ?!? My dates have always called to find out how things worked out afterwards, and where it was reversed, I've always followed up. But then I've always gone out with girls and young ladies I knew beforehand and who I had liked, they weren't unknown quantities before the date. |
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| Minuet | Jun 27 2007, 08:57 AM Post #4 |
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Somerled - your illness were not something you could control. It sounds like Intrepid's date could have controlled the situation a lot better. For one, if you say you are taking someone out for sushi you do not take them to a CHINESE restaurant. Last time I looked sushi was considered to be JAPANESE food. Second - a buffet on a first date is a bad idea. You don't want to look like a glutton when you are making a first impression. And frankly, a guy (or girl) who gets sick at a buffet gives the impression of being a glutton. Intrepid - I cannot really point to a date from heck - but I have had bad dates. One of the sorriest ones I ever went on was with a guy who was very wealthy. I didn't know that when he first asked me out - I had met him at a singles dance. When we went for coffee he spent the whole date trying to impress me with his wealth - never considering that I had agreed to the date without knowing he was wealthy. Well, actually more like his parents were wealthy. See - that's what he did wrong. He told me about daddy's business and how he worked for daddy. Then he told me how his new shiny red sports car was so new because he had an accident in the old one, but it wasn't a problem because daddy had bought him a new one, etc.... In the end I married a self made man. I don't live in a mansion, but I am happy. |
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| HistoryDude | Jun 27 2007, 09:37 AM Post #5 |
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I didn't date much, but when I did they were fairly normal. Except one I went on and the girl cussed like a sailor. Worse than a sailor. I'm not exaggerating! It was before I was a Christian, but it even made be blush then...
I didn't ask her back out.
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| somerled | Jun 27 2007, 10:07 AM Post #6 |
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Why not ? There are many nice chinese restraunts that also offer sushi (usually as entres and mains) , and its very nice sushi too made from fresh local seafood. The Peacock Palace at Speers Point has Chinese , Japanese and Australian (steaks, roasts, pies , soups , etc) meals to kill for .... Many of the 5 star motels I've stayed in on business trips have chinese restraunts attached and offer a wide range of cusines. Being critical of someone for not spending a lot of money on a meal for your date is a very superficial and self centred. Rich daddies boy probably thought he would impress you enough to get you into the sack , it probably works on some girls (social climbers). |
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| ANOVA | Jun 27 2007, 10:13 AM Post #7 |
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So Moogie should call up and say, "Gee, BOB, how are you doing, I had a strange and uncomfortable night, but not as uncomfortable as yours. I'm just calling becuase some guy in australia said it would be nice to do, even though, I think you're not calling becuase you know what a gluttoness fool you were that night." Is that about it. Nope, I think it's perfectly fine if Intrepidsan wishes to remain silent. |
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| Minuet | Jun 27 2007, 10:23 AM Post #8 |
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Gee you are infering an awful lot that Intrepid did not say. Number one - who said it was a cheap restaurant? What she said is that he told her they were going for sushi - but instead took her for Chinese. Not very upfront and honest. It says something about his character. Number two - just because you can get fresh sushi just about anywhere doesn't mean that Intrepid can. The fact are that Pittsburgh is on a river (actually three). Not an ocean. Fresh seafood is not always available. Better restaurants do bring in fresh seafood, but places that don't specialize often use frozen. A buffet place is more likely to use frozen. A place specializing in sushi in Pittsburgh is likely to have a much better quality of seafood. If he promised sushi he should have taken her for sushi. Period. Number 3 - you have not addressed the fact stated that the man ate a large quantity. Enough to make him sick. It just doesn't look good. |
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| somerled | Jun 27 2007, 10:36 AM Post #9 |
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Maybe he couldn't book a table that night at the restraunt he in mind so found somewhere else where at least sushi was offered. Go to a restraunt an pay through the nose for a meal , you expect a good meal , and he may have been very hungry on the night. I don't know what Intrepid regards as a large amount either, for her sparrow's (small) servings might be what she's used to , and hearty meals might be something she regards as too much food. Two or 3 course might be lots for her. It would cost her vertually nothing to follow up with a phone call just to ask if he is OK. No one is saying she should give him another chance unless she wants to or liked him .... he may be very nce man , he may even turn out being her man given a chance. |
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| Minuet | Jun 27 2007, 10:40 AM Post #10 |
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When a person, male or female, ends up in the washroom that is a good indication they have eaten too much :lol: |
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| somerled | Jun 27 2007, 10:43 AM Post #11 |
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Not necessarily , he may have serious medical condition that made him ill , it might have nothing to do with how much he ate or what he ate that night. |
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| ANOVA | Jun 27 2007, 10:49 AM Post #12 |
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Um...maybe this guy lost out. I mean who cares what his intentions were? He botched it. You get one chance to make a good first impression. This guy: Took his date to a buffet. Didn't understand or failed to communicate that he understood what constitutes good sushi. Overate or ate something that disagreed with him and had to leave. Moogie should write these up like a Bridget Jones type journal. She might make some money out of her misadventures in modern courtship. |
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| Minuet | Jun 27 2007, 11:05 AM Post #13 |
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Somerled - if the guy had an underlying medical condition he should have told her about it. Like Anova said you only get one chance ot make a first impression. Honesty is a good quality. If he had an underlying problem he could simply have told her about it. She's a nurse - I think she could handle the information. Dishonesty about an underlying condition that would possibly spoil a date is a bad place to start a relationship. Edit - by the way this is coming from someone who has actually dated someone with an underlying medical condition that could spoil things. But because he was honest with me I learned about the condition and dated the man for a number of months. It didn't work out in the end, but had nothing to do with his condition (Tourette's Syndrome, which was under control with medication - I wouldn't have known if he hadn't told me - but should the medication fail his antics could have been quite embarrassing) |
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| Intrepid2002 | Jun 27 2007, 11:18 AM Post #14 |
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Somerled.... I think I can assess a medical emergency quite well. :lol: He wasn't dying. I did take him home and give him a dose of Immodium before he went to bed. He called me the next morning to apologize for cutting the date short and wanted to try dinner again. He now works as a med rep for a pharmaceutical company and gives me samples of Immodium every once in a while..... for old times. We still get a laugh out of it. |
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| somerled | Jun 27 2007, 12:48 PM Post #15 |
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Fair enough. I was under the impression you bailed and left him at the restraunt without offering to help him or following up. |
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I didn't ask her back out.

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