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A full year
Topic Started: May 8 2007, 05:27 PM (464 Views)
Bug
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May 9 2007, 11:53 AM
Well I don't mean any disrespect towards Bug, but a year is a long time to get over a person with whom you had a relationship for only a month.

FOR CORRECTION

it was 4 1/2 months and my first relationship.

There were lies that surrounded a ton of things, and people who I thought were my friends who would stick by me didn't and didn't say anything encouraging whatsoever when it could have helped and when I needed it the most.

So yes Luthien, I was somewhat in the same boat you were, but I handle things differently.

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Her relationship lasted much longer then a month.

And like Luthien she has had strained relationships with other friends since the breakup.

Anyhow she was only marking a date and stating how much she has grown in the last year. I don't see her crying over him still. She did for a long time - but in this thread seems to be moving on and stating the positive things in her life.

Good for you Bug!


Thank you Minuet. That's exactly the point(s) I was trying to make.
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May 9 2007, 11:53 AM
Well I don't mean any disrespect towards Bug, but a year is a long time to get over a person with whom you had a relationship for only a month.

Her relationship lasted much longer then a month.

And like Luthien she has had strained relationships with other friends since the breakup.

Anyhow she was only marking a date and stating how much she has grown in the last year. I don't see her crying over him still. She did for a long time - but in this thread seems to be moving on and stating the positive things in her life.

Good for you Bug!


Indeed it's good for her. :)

I apologize for my reaction as I obviously didn't completely know what the situation was. And I misinterpreted the intent of the thread (I thought she was still crying about him).

I once had a relationship too, which I was abused in (she just was with me, because I would buy (and do) anything for her. And I was to naive to realize I was being taken advantage off. Until the last few months, where my best friend forced me to see what she was doing to me. Then I broke up with her.

But again, I meant no disrespect Bug and I apologize.
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May 9 2007, 12:28 PM
Indeed it's good for her. :)

I apologize for my reaction as I obviously didn't completely know what the situation was. And I misinterpreted the intent of the thread (I thought she was still crying about him).

I once had a relationship too, which I was abused in (she just was with me, because I would buy (and do) anything for her. And I was to naive to realize I was being taken advantage off. Until the last few months, where my best friend forced me to see what she was doing to me. Then I broke up with her.

But again, I meant no disrespect Bug and I apologize.

:hug: It's okay. I've misinterpreted before to. Sometimes I am not very good with expressing my feelings in a way they make sense, so that was partially my fault as well. I think I was using the examples at the end of the post about this summer in order to show that I still need to think about grace which in itself is a hard lesson to learn, but it's something that is vital in any relationship, whether existent or nonexistent.

And sure, there are still times when I think about the past and wonder what I could have or should have done differently, but in the words of Orlando Bloom from a Lord of the Rings behind the scenes show (which I watched last night):

"The more you struggle in life the more you grow." ~Orlando Bloom.
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Let's just keep it on some simple miscommunication. :)

But yeah, life's though. But as long as you learn from the (good as well as bad) things you experience, one should be alright.
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Except for the little fact that she didnt loose em completely. I was on my own for the rest of my life, untill I met Sparky (seeing as Hamuchi lives in Sweden).

But i know she hasnt been moping or whatever about it for a while now and thats good no argueing from me there.
I guess it depends on the person
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May 9 2007, 06:33 PM


"The more you struggle in life the more you grow." ~Orlando Bloom.

Orlando Bloom :wub: :wub: :wub:
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May 9 2007, 12:49 PM
Bug
May 9 2007, 06:33 PM


"The more you struggle in life the more you grow." ~Orlando Bloom.

Orlando Bloom :wub: :wub: :wub:

:lol: I think I hit a nerve there

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Except for the little fact that she didnt loose em completely. I was on my own for the rest of my life, untill I met Sparky (seeing as Hamuchi lives in Sweden).


No, but their lack of involvement in the situation still hurt and I felt deserted just as much. Plus we all live in different parts of the States and I had very minimal communication with any of them until we got back to school this year.

But you also have to understand that our so-called group also had distrust and tough times previously, so this second ocurrance just called for more trouble. :bat:
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No offence but that really just proves to show what kind of friends they are. Mine atleast were clear and decided to leave me all together. Their disinterest doesnt sound like good friendship to me either.
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May 9 2007, 12:58 PM
^^^


No offence but that really just proves to show what kind of friends they are. Mine atleast were clear and decided to leave me all together. Their disinterest doesnt sound like good friendship to me either.

You've NO idea how many times I've heard that one before. :lol:

Well, a couple of them, my old roommate (who's now married) and her husband have been on 'my side' so to speak, 'cause she saw a lot of what I went through for we were in the same room 80% of the time. So I see them and talked with them over IM more than the rest of the 'friends.'

But you can't stay bitter about the past forever.
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Well thats good, I had Hamuchi in that time but offcourse we could only talk about it online and not irl >< But even one person can make a difference in your life
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May 9 2007, 01:37 PM
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Well thats good, I had Hamuchi in that time but offcourse we could only talk about it online and not irl >< But even one person can make a difference in your life

Tell me about it. I have this amazing friend Ross who knows literally EVERYthing that has happened between now and then, and he has made such a difference. He says I've done the same for him, but as of yet I don't see how. :lol: :shrug:
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Go out with Ross then, sounds like a good guy
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May 9 2007, 01:55 PM
Go out with Ross then, sounds like a good guy

:lol: He's awesome, but he's got a girlfriend, and she's awesome to. Besides, us being a couple would never work. We may get along GREAT and our relationship that way has grown, but yeah, we're incompatable. :lol:
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Trust me you'll find your special someone one day :)

Just dont go looking for it because it doesnt work that way, I know it and so does Sparky. We both decided to gave up on looking and actually i was more focused on getting myself better and lookie now, suddenly there was Sparky in my life.

It will happen to you too
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Oh yeah. I remember.. I gave up on looking and really had an attitude like 'I don't care about it anymore'.. so I focused fully on myself/school/music and *bam* Luthien was in my life. And I feel really lucky about that, since she's such a good/nice person (which are hard to come by as it is) and she has such a great character (which is important).

No need to worry about it Bug, it'll happen to you too. The more you go searching the less chance you have of finding someone (good).
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