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| Tweet Topic Started: Apr 10 2007, 10:40 PM (277 Views) | |
| Bug | Apr 10 2007, 10:40 PM Post #1 |
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Supernatural = Hotnatural
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"The friendship that can cease has never been real." ~ Saint Jerome. This unfortunately is so true. When my ex and I broke up last school year we said we'd still be friends. It never happened. I lost my friend Billy, who apparently was never a true friend either. The same with my old roomie, Tracey, her husband Adam, our friend Jon, and almost anyone I used to 'hang' out with last year. None of them ever really made an effort to be my friend or to stay my friend. - including my ex (who's friends with the rest of them, and his current girlfriend Rachel who was just in my room and made the hairs on my back stand up straight). Sure, it's sad to lose friends, but over the past year and a half I've learned who my true friends are: "Sometimes you pick your friends, sometimes they pick you." ~ Anonymous In place of those old 'friends,' whom at the time I thought I could tell anything to and they'd still be there for me, I've been so thankfully given friends I can count on: Ross, who I am able to tell anything and we keep each other accountable for things we need to grow and work on. His girlfriend, Amanda, who I work at church with, my future roommate Tara (she's amazing by the way ), Amy, Laura, Glenn (even though he's loads older, but he's really in tune with the college-age group ). These are friends who will love me for who I am and not shy away when I tell them about a problem of mine. I think through my first year of college that was the biggest hardship for me - not having friends who were true and honest and would keep a secret. But now all that has been turned around "Do not save your loving speeches for your friends till they are dead. Do not write them on their tombstones, speak them rather now instead." ~ Anna Cummins Just thought I'd share those moments with yunz. And try to be a good friend, because you never know who you may lose. Buggie |
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| Hoss | Apr 11 2007, 07:51 AM Post #2 |
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Don't make me use my bare hands on you.
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![]() look into my eyes and tell me what you see I see a hint of Captain Janeway |
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| Bug | Apr 11 2007, 07:53 AM Post #3 |
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Supernatural = Hotnatural
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I'm not quite sure I understand what you're saying. Sorry.
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| Fesarius | Apr 11 2007, 08:18 AM Post #4 |
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Admiral
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Bug, For what it's worth, I have not remained friends with anyone I have ever gone out with, excluding my wife. And this covers about twenty-five years of relationships (about four in all). I don't think it is that unusual to part company (for good). Just my two cents. |
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| Bug | Apr 11 2007, 08:27 AM Post #5 |
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Supernatural = Hotnatural
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True...I suppose. But it still hurts though, no matter who it is...knowing they didn't take the time when they knew I was always available to hang out or something. I tried, but I always seemed to ask at the wrong time and they never seemed interested. |
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| Fesarius | Apr 11 2007, 08:47 AM Post #6 |
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Admiral
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^^^ Yes, I understand. Breaking up is not an easy thing to do (or to handle if it happens to you). But when I look back at those with whom I had a relationship (some over three years), I am very pleased that these relationships did not continue. In other words, it was for the better.
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| rowskid86 | Apr 11 2007, 09:31 AM Post #7 |
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Suck my Spock
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ya actually remaining friends is very rare. so dont fret about it. just go with the flow. |
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| Bug | Apr 11 2007, 09:38 AM Post #8 |
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Supernatural = Hotnatural
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I guess in a way I kinda wished it, but with some hope whatever may have been there could've reversed the effects. But you know, I've found I have a lot less conflict when I'm not friends with them, because since I started going to school with them all I heard was gossip about what happened about things I didn't even know about, so I always felt left out. although my ex's girlfriend was in the room last night and all the hairs on my back stood straight up. i didn't like the feeling.
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| Dr. Noah | Apr 12 2007, 01:29 AM Post #9 |
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Sistertrek's Asian Correspondant
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As you get older, your friends change. Suddenly you all have different view and goals than when you were younger. It doesn't mean that you can't be friends anymore, but it won't be the same. When you live in several different places over the course of the years, you realize that friends really aren't that hard to come by. Just be yourself, be friendly, humble, and compassionate. |
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| ~Luthien~ | Apr 12 2007, 07:38 AM Post #10 |
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Little Sister Of Sistertrek
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My ex and I have been together for a year, we broke up not under the best of circumstances, we didnt talk for a year..But then his new girlfriend decided to get into contact with me, I aint jealous were actually quite good friends right now. It also gave me a chance to talk to my ex about what happened between us. We shared happiness and sadness together for over a year, Im sorry but then I cant just break off all contact. Im happy for him and his new girlfriend, they fit waaay better together than he and I ever did. And his girlfriend is a very sweet girl we know each other for about 5 months now and we plan on actually meeting up sometime hows that? My new boyfriend knows all about it and he aint the jealous type, he understands and is glad that I atleast gained a new friendship out of it. So in my opinion ex's can be friends yes its just not so easy. On another note; I never really knew what REAL friendship meant untill I met Hamuchi and her boyfriend/fiance. And since i never had a REAL friendship I didnt know how to handle that one, it was a road of learning and gaining experience, we had our fair share of big fights, weve come close to once ending our friendship but its been 3 years and we still stand by one another no matter what happened between us in the past. Heck she even saved my life despite our fights, now THATS a real friendship to me, and Iam proud to call her my best friend and I can only hope that even though we had our setbacks things will go better from here |
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| rowskid86 | Apr 12 2007, 07:27 PM Post #11 |
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Suck my Spock
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My past relationships have been disasters. It's for the best sometimes that you break up and go your seperate ways. My most sucessful relationship lasted 2 years and the last 6 month was loads of arguing, and lies, and the last 2 months I admit I wanted out and sabotoged it. Do I wonder how she is doing? Sure. Do I really want to ever talk to her again? Not Really. Listen to what Noah said. |
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| ~Luthien~ | Apr 13 2007, 09:56 AM Post #12 |
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Little Sister Of Sistertrek
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^^^ Well im sorry but if i still get along with my ex and his new girlfriend i see no need to just break off all contact |
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