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OMG Parents...; *shakes head*
Topic Started: Apr 5 2007, 12:37 PM (2,224 Views)
~Luthien~
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As you all know I have a boyfriend, yes me i know unbelievable anyhoo.
Were together for a month now and next month his mother is turning 50, which is gonna be a huge party and since i was invited and live 2 hours away im not thinking of taking a train back home at 1 in the night.
So i decided to tell my mom the difficult news...mom..im gonna be sleeping at my boyfriends place..just sleeping and this is how it went;

Me; Mom, 28th of april Pascal's mom is having her 50th bday.
She; Oh nice congrats!
Me; Yeah im invited but its gonna be a big party thats gonna turn out late.
She: Oh okey well have fun
Me; So yea im not thinking of taking the train back home at 1 in the night but staying there.
She; oh ok..silence
Me; yea but they dont have a guest bedroom.
She; oh okey silence...(ffs get the hint woman!)
Me; So yeah im gonna be sleeping at Pascal's place, WITH pascal JUST sleeping...
She; oh okey...well have fun

:huh: my mom is the wierdest person ever. I mean serious she is a very religious person. When me and my ex broke up after a year and my mom and i talked about it she said sooo your not a virgin anymore eh? And im like uh yes i am what the hell do u think of me? Its gonna take more than just a relationship for a year to make such a huge step.

Then i moved to sweden and i got meds that made me blow up like a balloon, i looked like i was 6 months pregnant. and i didnt know what it was and i couldnt reach my doctor (everything was swollen btw, feet,hands) so i called her.
And she was like hmm...yeah are u pregnant?
And im like o.O HELLOOOOO?! What kind of person do u see me for??

Obviously my mom doesnt seem to see me in very high regards when it comes to relationships because she is either clueless or thinks i sleep around all over the place or something.
And that coming from a highly religious person.. im confused...

Does anyone have any experiences with this?? :huh:
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Pascal? Ha!, he'll come in handy if you ever need to expand a binomial expression ;)
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~Luthien~
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Hello! This is Holland! We dont all have international names dear! *sticks out tongue* :P
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I guess that's just natural for parents. Even more so if you happen to be a daughter.

Try not to worry about it.
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Im seriously thinking of asking her tonight if she thinks of me as some kind of slut (sorry for cursing) because on one hand it sounds funny but on the other hand u think, does my mom really think that low of me =S
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~Luthien~
Apr 5 2007, 11:50 AM
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Hello! This is Holland! We dont all have international names dear! *sticks out tongue* :P

*takes note for future reference,"Don't make fun of Luths boyfriend





What happened to Serge anyway?, why'd ya break up with him?
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~Luthien~
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There never was a Serge o.O
I had a boyfriend about 1,5 yrs ago but he turned out to be an a*hole. He couldnt get from me what he wanted so he moved onto someone else. Oh god teens
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Luthien - there may be another explanation.

It's not that she thinks of you as a slut. In today's world things generally are "looser" then in the past. It is tough for parents to sometimes define how much they should interfer after thier child reaches a certain age. Most of the people I know in thier early 20's who have relationships are no longer virgins. Your mom sees this around her as well. I think she is carefully treading the line where she wants to tell you what to do - but she knows you are old enough to decide for yourself. So she says nothing.

At least she is not forbidding you to go. If she really thought that you were acting slutty and she really was against your behaviour I am sure she would act by forbidding you to take the trip.
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I agree with Min.

To be honest teens and young adults - due to their independence - often due to their mother's imagiation.

I'm 23 for crying out loud, but i if work late in the computer labs on campus and forget to call my mom to let her know i find her waiting at the door complaining that she thought all sorts of terrible things had happened to me.

Its annoying, but i know it means she loves me.
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Apr 6 2007, 03:02 AM
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I agree with Min.

To be honest teens and young adults - due to their independence - often due to their mother's imagiation.

I'm 23 for crying out loud, but i if work late in the computer labs on campus and forget to call my mom to let her know i find her waiting at the door complaining that she thought all sorts of terrible things had happened to me.

Its annoying, but i know it means she loves me.

My mother did that to me for the first time in years last week. Kinda suprised me that she still panicked that way
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I agree Minuet..


I asked her about it last night and it was exactly as you said. And i told her how I saw something like that because for me its a HUGE step and to me it has nothing to do with whether im with someone for 1 year or for 5 years so to speak.
She understood that and said that she couldnt forbid it should it ever happen, but i told her that i would be honest to her when the time comes.

I just wondered since she is so strongly religious and lets me very free in that area and i didnt expect that
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The more you write about your mother here the more I think she is one heck of a lady. Someone I would really like if I met her.

She has always supported you - even though it has been difficult with your dad. I think I got the full picture of what her life has been like when you wrote in the other thread that she had actually threatened to leave your dad if he didn't do something about his behaviour. That was a major step for someone who has quietly endured a lot of verbal abuse over the years (thank goodness not physical abuse!)

It's time for you to start relating to your mother as an adult and not just as your mother. :)
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Thats actually what were doing, before I went into the hospital our relationship was really really bad, and now were just getting closer and closer and i have the idea that we both can talk and vent to each other about everything, she sees me as an adult and i told her that if she ever needed to vent about something towards me that im here for her.

But lets not forget, all this positive changing wouldnt have been if Hamuchi didnt drag me to the hospital. someone else whom Iam eternal grateful.

And Minuet, i wish i could meet you too, you always seemed like the perfect mother to me. (well next to my own that is ;) )
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I'm far from perfect! :lol:

Thank you for the compliment. I will say it is easier to be "perfect" on the internet when you are discussing other peoples problems and not your own.
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Well Ive been a member for like 3 years now I think and Ive always looked up to you, not just as a member but also as a mother.
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