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| My two older sisters; need advise | |
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| Petrafan1 | Dec 6 2006, 07:13 AM Post #1 |
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My two older sisters are smoking marjawana(pot) when we was down for Thanksgiving. I could smell it on them. They both got kids and I love my neices dearly and I don't want nothing to happened to them cause their moms are high on pot. They act like they are from outerspace when they are on that stuff and don't care about their kids. Then my middle sister had the nerve to tell my mom that I smoked it too to make me look bad like them. My mom didn't believe her thank God. They have friends that are always threathening to call the police or social services. I will take my neices before social services will. I love my sisters and I want them to get help. How can I make them see that they need help? Plus they are on something else. I just my heart crys out. What am I going to do? My sisters are walking down the wrong path and I don't know how to stop them. |
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| 24thcenstfan | Dec 6 2006, 09:01 AM Post #2 |
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Petrafan, I think you and your entire adult immediate family should attempt an intervention. Bring your two sisters into a group and confront them on their behavior. Tell them how their behavior is affecting you individually, the family and their children. Tell them it is putting their kids in harm's way. Tell them you are scared for them. Each of you tell them how their behavior is affecting the people around them. If they refuse to stop taking drugs or go into rehab (if they are addicted), then you will have to consider taking it to the next level (social services). I know you don't want to bring in social services, but legally the children do not belong to you. Short of your sisters turning over custody to a family member, that is the only other way you will be able to remove the children from their "care". |
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| Petrafan1 | Dec 6 2006, 09:06 AM Post #3 |
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I agree with you for the most part. But, I will take the kids. I know how foster works cause I been in the system. Not a place for kids. I know. |
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| 24thcenstfan | Dec 6 2006, 09:09 AM Post #4 |
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You may want to take the kids, but unless you have permission from your sisters or the state, then you would be committing a felony (i.e. kidnapping). Please keep that in mind. |
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| Minuet | Dec 6 2006, 09:41 AM Post #5 |
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If you are the one who makes the report to social services you might be able to negotiate the kids being turned over to you. It probably is best to work in concert with the system rather then trying to go it alone. If you tried to take the kids with no legal backing your sisters could take you to court and press criminal charges. |
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| rowskid86 | Dec 6 2006, 12:32 PM Post #6 |
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If they are like pretty much all potheads, then they won't giv e a shit about anything except their next High. but you could try. My suggestion is talk to them straightforward about it. and tell them straighten up and fly right, you their ass will be in jail |
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| ANOVA | Dec 6 2006, 03:01 PM Post #7 |
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I'm not seeing it. Possession of pot unless the quanity is great enough to indicate a sale (ie drug dealing) is only going to be met with a misdomeanor and some lame rehab. I doubt you could get Social Services to do much more unless you claimed they were endangering the children by getting them high. There might be enough THC in the childrens blood to prove the possibility. Given the case load of most social services I'm not sure who would end up with custody in the end. It would be best for you to get real legal council. My sister and I recieved free council when we had my dad committed for observation. But once you've sworn out an actual complaint, prepare yourself for a long ugly battle. My dad blames my younger sister for filingthe complaint and has never even brought it up in my presense. No telling how other family members will react to any action you take. Not saying this to sway you either way, I just want you to see the big picture before you act. |
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| Petrafan1 | Dec 7 2006, 10:25 PM Post #8 |
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No they wouldn't have custody of her cause I just found out.... |
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| whitestar | Mar 31 2007, 08:15 AM Post #9 |
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have you considered you may be over reacting? I am a pot smoker, brought up two children who are well adjusted capable adults. a daughter who attended and graduated university now a professional with a flourshing career also happily married with two wonderful children. By the way has never showed interest in any drug taking A son who trained with me as an apprentice carpenter is now running his own business, employing two people, married and he also has two children. my son and I occasionaly share a joint. It's not for every one, but neither is alcohol, moderation is the key |
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| STC | Apr 16 2007, 06:08 PM Post #10 |
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Sorry I know this is an old thread that I'm dragging up, but this really does show some BIG cultural differences between North America and the UK. Smoking cannabis here isn't considered a big deal at all, as long as its done in the privacy of your own home. The police do not prosecute for home use, they only prosecute if you're caught dealing in large amounts. Cannabis has few addictive properties and, while there are some health impacts, the damage alcohol causes is far greater - yet this is totally legal. If you're reading this, I wouldn't take any action at all, if this is your only concern. Involving social services and having the children's lives disrupted will be far more damaging for them. Oh, and just so you know where I'm coming from, I don't smoke cannabis at all. I have done, but didn't like it. But I still believe people have the right to make the choice to use it, like anything else. |
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