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How I met my husband
Topic Started: Nov 25 2005, 08:59 AM (988 Views)
Petrafan1
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To explain how I met my husband you would have to understand what went on in my life before I met him.

When I was 16, I was raped and tortured by my ex-boyfriend. Yeah he went to prison for it but not for long.. But anyhow, I was facing all this crap. I felt like I can never trust any guy again. Felt sometimes in that time to become a lesbian but didn't. Cause I knew that was not me and I had no interest in women.

I was all alone and depressed. A year later when I turned 17, my Aunt Judy called me to tell me she knows this good handsome christian young man who was 21 at the time. I told her I was not ready cause I felt like I could not trust another man. She told me I won't never know til I find out. Well that night she took me over his dad's and stepmom's house where he was living at the time. He did work trust me.

He worked the 3rd shift and they woke him up just to come meet me. While his stepmom was waking him up, his step brother was behind the chair where charlie's stepmom was sitting. Well before Brenda went got charlie, I leaned over to Judy and asked.'' That is not Charles behind Brenda? Cause he is ugly... She said no it is not.

When Charles walked in the room, I fell inlove at first sight. It was my white knight in shining armor.. My prince.. He was drop dead gorgeous... Of course he was half asleep when he sat on the couch yeah my Aunt Judy was in between us so he didn't get a good look... Well after that, he didn't call me til two weeks later.

We talked for four hours straight. Then we talked for two weeks after. Then he asked me on our first date.... We dated for two months and then he said he had somethin to ask me..
He got down on one knee and asked me to marry him. At first I was in shock. I asked.'' Are you joking.'' He said no... I thought about it but I knew he was the one. I said yes.

Then he asked my dad for my hand in marriage. My dad usually wouldn't even let me date a 21 year old. But, he knew he was a christian man. Charles did respect me and didn't try to rape or talk me into sex. Yeah we made out lol but not sex.


June 28th 1992. We had our first born Allen in Oct 93.. We have been married for 13 years...... And forever more years...

When he was in Iraq in 2003, I went and got a tattoo with a heart. It has I love you and under the heart it says Charliepop...

My best friend said it was bad luck but I don't believe in superstition. God is in control lol....


I love my Charlie....

It was hard for me to talk about the rape. But, I know the creep is not going to get me anymore....
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Data's Cat's Sister
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Wow, that is one heck of a story! I am so glad that you have gotten away from that man and have a decent one now.
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Thanks me too.. Yeah our trip to SC today was spoiled by car breaking down so we end up having to come back. My dad is glad that I am the only daughter that has a man that knows how to work on a car. My ex-brother-in-laws never worked on a car so my dad had to do it. So he don't have to worry about our car cause Charlie fixes.
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When I first opened this thread I thought I was just going to read a little romantic story. But my goodness, your story is soooo much more. It is about triumphing over the very worse of circumstances. I am so glad that things have worked out so well given the hell you have had to go through.
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I thought I would never get past the bad memories that happened to me but, I did... Talking about it helps to heal even more.. I ran into the guy who raped me last month while I was visiting SC . He had the nerve to speak but Charlie punched him ... Took my dad and my cousin to get Charlie off... That guy never bother to come near me after that. Looked like when he went to prison the jerk would learn his lesson... Charlie taught him...
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It's good to know you are in a better place in your life now.
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Nov 25 2005, 07:26 PM
I thought I would never get past the bad memories that happened to me but, I did... Talking about it helps to heal even more.. I ran into the guy who raped me last month while I was visiting SC . He had the nerve to speak but Charlie punched him ... Took my dad and my cousin to get Charlie off... That guy never bother to come near me after that. Looked like when he went to prison the jerk would learn his lesson... Charlie taught him...

Well I am glad that you are getting beyond the bad memories. Trauma takes time to overcome but it sounds like you have good support.
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I hope that other bastard has and is doing some serious gaol time.
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Petrafan1
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what is gaol somerlled? Mean jail? He did jail time but justice system is not fair sometimes to let bastards like him stay in jail. But,he does know where I am now and that is a good thing.
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Petrafan1
Nov 26 2005, 04:34 PM
what is gaol somerlled? Mean jail? He did jail time but justice system is not fair sometimes to let bastards like him stay in jail. But,he does know where I am now and that is a good thing.

That's how we spell it.
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Oh ok I understand now ...
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Petrafan1
Nov 26 2005, 01:34 AM
what is gaol somerlled? Mean jail? He did jail time but justice system is not fair sometimes to let bastards like him stay in jail. But,he does know where I am now and that is a good thing.

I hope you mean that he doesn't know where you are now.
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I meant to say he does not know where I am. sorry... :blush:
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^^^ That's alright. And I am glad to hear it. :)
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I know what you mean about the trauma affecting trust. Kevin worked at the same place as me so the relationship started as work mates through friendship to love and beyond with the usual hiccups in between. He was patient, kind and he didn't rush me. When Kevin proposed I was so happy I cried and he cried too. When I opened finally up to my husband about what happened in my childhood he was sooooo angry! Ah well, my dad is now facing the ultimate justice in the beyond. It took me years of therapy and the love of a good man to bring me to this place. So I too know the sweet releif of moving on with life and leaving the past behind. I think it makes us stronger.
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