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| Deleted User | May 29 2005, 05:58 PM Post #1 |
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I don't know why, but lately (The last few weeks) I haven't really been all that happy. So, here I am writing this in an effort to make myself feel a little better. I'm just sitting here typing whatever comes into my head, so if it makes little sense, you know why. I can't seem to put my finger on why I feel as I do, I just do. Nothing is particularly wrong in life. Infact, things are going well. I have a new job, new car, new friends but something just isn't right. I seem to be angry and irritable most of the time, i'm always tired no matter how much sleep I get. And, one other thing, which to me sounds rather silly. I was watching "Castaway" just now, and the bit at the end where he is reunited with his wife kinda got to me. I'm sick of being single. Silly I know. I split with my last girlfriend over a year ago. It was tough, and sometimes I still miss her. Occasionally i'll drive past her house (In the next street) just to see if anything is happening. I'm pretty much over her, but there is something stopping me letting go completly. I'm not sure what it is. There is someone else I like, but in all likelyhood, nothing will ever come of that and that is something I have to accept. Anyway, I think that's about it for now. Thanks for reading. |
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| Minuet | May 29 2005, 06:38 PM Post #2 |
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Welsby - the last few weeks were quite traumatic for you, what with the beating, hospital stay, etc... And all on the heels of getting a new job. I think you are just overwhelmed by everything that has happened in such a short time. Some was good - but some was not so naturally you feel out of sorts. You have also been in a lot of physical pain which does not help. This is not advice I would normally give on the internet - but considering the physical trauma you experienced I suggest you might benefit from seeing a therapist. What happened to you is not the same as a simple car accident. If it had happened to me I know I would be feeling very emotional about it. Maybe you just need to talk things out with a professional. That's my 2 cents (Canadian )
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| 8247 | May 29 2005, 06:41 PM Post #3 |
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If anyone here knows that things will get better, its me. Believe me. Things DO get better.
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| 24thcenstfan | May 29 2005, 07:35 PM Post #4 |
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Welsby, I also think it might be a good idea for you to talk with a professional about all that you have been through lately. And you surely have been through a lot. Whatever you do, don't let it fester. Take action immediately to rectify or allay the emotional upheaval you have experienced and seem to be currently experiencing. That is my advice. |
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| Ngagh | May 29 2005, 09:06 PM Post #5 |
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Hit the gym. Any anger you have, take it out on a punching bag, or a bench press. I didn't know about your traumatic few weeks. Thats rough. I find that whenever I'm feeling down, I always get back up after going to the gym. Plus its a great way to meet girls. |
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| Dandandat | May 29 2005, 10:05 PM Post #6 |
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Time to put something here
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Get your self checked for Mono http://kidshealth.org/kid/health_problems/...ction/mono.html |
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| Fesarius | May 29 2005, 10:52 PM Post #7 |
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Welsby, You've seemed very happy in the PMs you and I have been exchanging. I think things will get better. I will be thinking of you.
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| Franko | May 30 2005, 01:31 AM Post #8 |
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I also agree with Min and others, Mike. That incident you went through might have left you with a bit of post-concussion depression. Plus I agree with the "working out at the gym" or some other kind of exercise routine. And it's nothing to feel bad about. Many emergency workers, police, firefighters, etc. have difficulties after being injured or attacked. And yes, former girlfriends are sometimes hard to completely get over. The best way is to replace them with someone else. But I'll defer to the wisdom of our female members for advice on romance. Kapla |
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| captain_proton_au | May 30 2005, 06:47 AM Post #9 |
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| psyfi | May 30 2005, 08:08 AM Post #10 |
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Psychologists are increasingly realizing and understanding the nature of "emotional trauma" as a response to a serious and frightening life event. I got the information below from: http://www.helpguide.org/mental/emotional_...ical_trauma.htm Here is a little bit of info from the website. You should read it and see if you have any of the other symptoms they list. ...Recent research has revealed that emotional trauma can result from such common occurrences as an auto accident, the breakup of a significant relationship, a humiliating or deeply disappointing experience, the discovery of a life-threatening illness or disabling condition, or other similar situations. Traumatizing events can take a serious emotional toll on those involved, even if the event did not cause physical damage. Regardless of its source, an emotional trauma contains three common elements: * it was unexpected; * the person was unprepared; and * there was nothing the person could do to prevent it from happening. It is not the event that determines whether something is traumatic to someone, but the individual's experience of the event. And it is not predictable how a given person will react to a particular event. For someone who is used to being in control of emotions and events, it may be surprising – even embarrassing – to discover that something like an accident or job loss can be so debilitating. ..... Anyone can become traumatized. Even professionals who work with trauma, or other people close to a traumatized person, can develop symptoms of "vicarious" or "secondary" traumatization. Developing symptoms is never a sign of weakness. Symptoms should be taken seriously and steps should be taken to heal, just as one would take action to heal from a physical ailment. And just as with a physical condition, the amount of time or assistance needed to recover from emotional trauma will vary from one person to another. What are the symptoms of emotional trauma? There are common effects or conditions that may occur following a traumatic event. Sometimes these responses can be delayed, for months or even years after the event. Often, people do not even initially associate their symptoms with the precipitating trauma. The following are symptoms that may result from a more commonplace, unresolved trauma, especially if there were earlier, overwhelming life experiences: Physical * Eating disturbances (more or less than usual) * Sleep disturbances (more or less than usual) * Sexual dysfunction * Low energy * Chronic, unexplained pain Emotional * Depression, spontaneous crying, despair and hopelessness * Anxiety * Panic attacks * Fearfulness * Compulsive and obsessive behaviors * Feeling out of control * Irritability, angry and resentment * Emotional numbness * Withdrawal from normal routine and relationships Cognitive * Memory lapses, especially about the trauma * Difficulty making decisions * Decreased ability to concentrate * Feeling distracted The following additional symptoms of emotional trauma are commonly associated with a severe precipitating event, such as a natural disaster, exposure to war, rape, assault, violent crime, major car or airplane crashes, or child abuse. Extreme symptoms can also occur as a delayed reaction to the traumatic event. Re-experiencing the Trauma * intrusive thoughts * flashbacks or nightmares * sudden floods of emotions or images related to the traumatic event Emotional Numbing and Avoidance * amnesia * avoidance of situations that resemble the initial event * detachment * depression * guilt feelings * grief reactions * an altered sense of time Increased Arousal * hyper-vigilance, jumpiness, an extreme sense of being "on guard" * overreactions, including sudden unprovoked anger * general anxiety * insomnia * obsessions with death ..... |
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| who | May 30 2005, 08:55 AM Post #11 |
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Since this is a spiritual forum, my understanding for all unhappiness, whatever the form, is spiritual. It results from the belief that we are separate and alone. What we miss the most are God and His love. I have experienced this once and instantly knew that in all of my supposed needs and desires, it was this love I was really seeking. |
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| Fesarius | May 30 2005, 09:34 AM Post #12 |
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^^^ Who, A very nice post--and one that I can relate to as well.
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| Swidden | May 30 2005, 10:00 AM Post #13 |
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Sometimes Mike it is copmletely natural to be down in the dumps. However, in your case I too think it could have more to do with your experience in the past few weeks. In time you might very well be able to just move past this, but do pay attention to it and seriously consider talking to someone professionally about it. If only to reassure yourself that you really are okay. In the meantime, you know where to find sympathetic virtual ears in the place when you need them... |
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| captain_proton_au | May 30 2005, 10:39 AM Post #14 |
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Give the title, i thought this was going to be a hair removal thread |
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| Deleted User | May 30 2005, 10:40 AM Post #15 |
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Thanks for the advice guys. Reading my original post back it seems silly and dis-jointed. But, you get how i'm feeling. I am considering seeing a professional about what happened. I'm not over it, no matter how much I try and kid myself I am. I'm fearful of large groups, especially groups of young teenagers. I know thats natural, it happened last time I was punched a couple of years ago. I always got nervous whenever I walked past someone, just incase they stuck thier arm out. It'll pass, but perhaps this time I need some help... Thanks again guys. It means a lot to me.
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