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Loneliness; The search for love continues
Topic Started: Nov 25 2004, 02:21 PM (757 Views)
somerled
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Nov 26 2004, 10:52 PM
Sure. I guess she won't mind letting me tell the story. Sandy was my childhood sweetheart. Posted Image I met her shortly after my family moved to Canada. We began a whirlwind relationship shortly after we entered high school together. She was one of the few people who actually understood my unique ways of doing things. She reminded me a lot of my grandpa - A wise and very caring man. AAR we went out on a steady basis until our senior high school year back in 1982. I had just turned eighteen and I asked her to marry me. I was overjoy when she said yes. We were planning to annouce our engagement to our families at Christmas with an intention to marry within a year when she was struck down by a DUI. My Sandy slip into a coma and died December 30th.

After her funeral I slipped into a very dangerous and deep depression. I blamed myself for causing her death. Mind you at the time I didn't have a car to drive her home. We parted at the bus stop one block from her house. I came close to committing suicide three times before I got some much needed counselling and psychological help. It was during these sessions that I started to realize even if I was with her there was no way I could of prevent her untimely death.

I loved Sandy. Her memories and the brief time we had together continue to live in my stories. Every now and then I still dream about her and talk with her. Sandy, along with my grandpa are my guardian angels. It is through them I create the universe in my stories.

I am not sure but I have a feeling she is telling me it's time I start sharing our brief joyful time together with the rest of the world

:woohoo:

I think we can all relate to that.
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Nov 26 2004, 11:52 AM
A book club sounds good, i would go for it if i were you. Good luck!

A book club sounds OK , so long as there is an opportunity to socialise - around tea & bickies on a table say - during the meetings.
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Nov 27 2004, 06:27 AM
Mike Welsby
Nov 26 2004, 11:52 AM
A book club sounds good, i would go for it if i were you. Good luck!

A book club sounds OK , so long as there is an opportunity to socialise - around tea & bickies on a table say - during the meetings.

Oh yeah, Hob-Nobs!
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digifan2004
Nov 26 2004, 10:52 PM
Sure. I guess she won't mind letting me tell the story. Sandy was my childhood sweetheart. Posted Image I met her shortly after my family moved to Canada. We began a whirlwind relationship shortly after we entered high school together. She was one of the few people who actually understood my unique ways of doing things. She reminded me a lot of my grandpa - A wise and very caring man. AAR we went out on a steady basis until our senior high school year back in 1982. I had just turned eighteen and I asked her to marry me. I was overjoy when she said yes. We were planning to annouce our engagement to our families at Christmas with an intention to marry within a year when she was struck down by a DUI. My Sandy slip into a coma and died December 30th.

After her funeral I slipped into a very dangerous and deep depression. I blamed myself for causing her death. Mind you at the time I didn't have a car to drive her home. We parted at the bus stop one block from her house. I came close to committing suicide three times before I got some much needed counselling and psychological help. It was during these sessions that I started to realize even if I was with her there was no way I could of prevent her untimely death.

I loved Sandy. Her memories and the brief time we had together continue to live in my stories. Every now and then I still dream about her and talk with her. Sandy, along with my grandpa are my guardian angels. It is through them I create the universe in my stories.

I am not sure but I have a feeling she is telling me it's time I start sharing our brief joyful time together with the rest of the world

:woohoo:

I got tears in my eyes reading this... That must have been a very hard and tough time and youre such a strong person that you got out of it.My condolences and i really admire you. :blush:
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Digifan,

Extremely moving. I am sorry about your loss. Still, it was nice to see your :woohoo: at the end of the post. :)
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Wow Digi, I feel for you.

I will offer a story of my friend Georgia, a woman, whose story I think will offer hope.

Her Husband literally left her and us, all of his friends with no warning. We had known him since high school days, and he said to his wife and us his close friends: "I just don't care anymore". Then he just disappeared. He left her with a 1 year old Boy and a new Pregnancy he created the night he left her.

We were agast, we thought we knew this guy, but I guess we did not.

INTERRUPT this story for my post to Digifan:
You would be surprised where you would find the person you are looking for.
You may already know her.......
END my post

Back to the story.....
Georgia gave birth to a second beautiful little boy she named Brandon. Her and her two children Jordan and Brandon and her lived on Government programs while she struggled to make it day to day.

It was then that she met a man named Todd who she had been around for some time at her job and ignored. It turns out this guy is an Angel sent from heaven to meet her cry. This guy has been looking for her longer than she has needed him.
Further, God sent him to her with Grandparents for the boys.

That was two plus years ago. They just got married last weekend, the hurricanes in Florida stopped it from occurring sooner, it was to be on the coast.

Georgia found true love where she did not think to look for it, through friendship.
Like I said above, there may already be an Angel in your life, you just have not identified her.......
Best wishes my friend!





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Nov 28 2004, 08:03 PM
Wow Digi, I feel for you.

I will offer a story of my friend Georgia, a woman, whose story I think will offer hope.

Her Husband literally left her and us, all of his friends with no warning. We had known him since high school days, and he said to his wife and us his close friends: "I just don't care anymore". Then he just disappeared. He left her with a 1 year old Boy  and a new Pregnancy he created the night he left her.

We were agast, we thought we knew this guy, but I guess we did not.

INTERRUPT this story for my post to Digifan:
You would be surprised where you would find the person you are looking for.
You may already know her.......
END my post

Back to the story.....
Georgia gave birth to a second beautiful little boy she named Brandon. Her and her two children Jordan and Brandon and her lived on Government programs while she struggled to make it day to day.

It was then that she met a man named Todd who she had been around for some time at her job and ignored. It turns out this guy is an Angel sent from heaven to meet her cry. This guy has been looking for her longer than she has needed him.
Further, God sent him to her with Grandparents for the boys.

That was two plus years ago. They just got married last weekend, the hurricanes in Florida stopped it from occurring sooner, it was to be on the coast.

Georgia found true love where she did not think to look for it, through friendship.
Like I said above, there may already be an Angel in your life, you just have not identified her.......
Best wishes my friend!

Thanks for the words of encouragement, my friends. I am deeply touched. :blush:
I am deeply moved by the story as well.

I had just returned from my out of town trip. Unfortunately the place I wanted to visit was closed on weekends. On the bright side I got a nice car ride out of it. I may want to do it again later this week.

Yeah, I know. I shoudl get off my butt and start meeting people, specially single women closer to my own age. For the now obvious reasons you know why I don't like hanging out in bars and nightclubs. I admit I don't dance and I don't do a lot of mall browsing either but I am on a constant alert for new story material. Good heavens! :blink: I sounds just like Jake Sisko!

I figure the web is a good place to start. I just have to follow my heart and trust my guardian angels' judgement. They will lead me to her. Or she may find me. Only God and heaven know for sure. Posted Image
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Hi Digi. Your story about Sandy touched me deeply and I'm glad you decided to continue with life.

Here's yet another way to meet someone. While I don't guarantee anything, I do endorse this method since it worked for me.

While in my 20's and early 30's, I dated quite a bit and found no luck whatsoever. By the time I was 34, I was ready to wave a white flag. At the time, I was running the Star Trek area for AOL's predecessor, Quantum Link. I hosted a weekly chat room on Friday nights from my apartment in NYC. A gentleman from Erie, Pennsylvania started becoming a regular in the room and we struck up a friendship. To make a long story shorter, that friendship blossomed slowly and through phone calls and weekend visits, ended up in matrimony two years later.

That was over 10 yrs ago. We are still happily married and living in Erie.

While using the computer to find a mate is no longer new, it still requires common sense and caution. The wonderful thing about this method is you get the chance to completely know someone without having seen them first. By the time Chuck and I actually met face to face, we could order for each other in a restaurant! We discovered looks don't mean much in the bigger picture.

However you find Miss Right, I wish you tremendous good luck! Digi, don't give up the ship!

Julia
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Yeh don't give up Digi fan. I think you should always keep looking until you find that special person.
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Dr. Noah
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As long as you are yourself, you'll find her.

Remeber what Guinan said to Geordi:

"You're doing fine right now."

"But I'm not even trying."

"Exactly."

Wouldn't it be cool if Geordi hooked up with Guinan?
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Hmmm...I'm Still Trying To Get Over Someone. Still Love Sick Over Her... :(

Still Friends With Her Though..Still Talk....But..The Other Day I Depressed Myself Into A Nap Thinking About Her So Much...

I Want To Move And I'm Really Trying, But... :banghead:


Edit: Wrote Her Letter Today. Gonna Mail It Soon. Just A Friendly How Ya Doing Type Letter. :)
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Dr. Noah
Dec 2 2004, 12:12 PM
As long as you are yourself, you'll find her.

Remeber what Guinan said to Geordi:

"You're doing fine right now."

"But I'm not even trying."

"Exactly."

Wouldn't it be cool if Geordi hooked up with Guinan?

Geordi and Guinan? :huh: Although i shud be glad Geordi finds someone im not sure Guinan is exactly his type.
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Dr. Noah
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True, but Geordi should've ended up with someone cool. Who is Geordi's type? Maybe Ro?
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She would be more his type i think yes.
He needs a sweet girl who is a little bit shy but just really nice and always listens to him,who would that be on StarTrek i wonder
(gooooosh my english is really bad tonight sorry for that)
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Dr. Noah
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I don't think so, I completely understood you. More than I can say! Most of the time other people are coming up with completely different things than what I am saying! :lol:

Quiet and shy? Sito Jaxa would've been good. (if she lived) Maybe Troi if she wasn't with Riker, how about that chick Data dated for a while?
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