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How did you meet your partner?; Looking to pick up some tips.
Topic Started: Sep 12 2004, 05:44 AM (1,244 Views)
Dr. Noah
Sistertrek's Asian Correspondant
At the risk of sounding cliche, when you find the right one, you will know it. A good clue is that you can be yourself with them, you can spend a quiet morning with them just hanging out and reading, no conversation necessary to achieve comfort, you are just comfortable around each other. And like Swidden says, it happens when you're not looking, actually, when you least suspect it.
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Data's Cat's Sister
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Thankyou all so much. Those were some realy lovely stories. They cheered me up.:)
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Keep your chin up, i'm sure Mr. Right will come along eventually. :)
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~Luthien~
Sep 17 2004, 05:22 AM
I got a question though bcuz i cant get how pple can say i love you to their partner.Which feeling shud u have bfore u can finally say I love you and really mean it?
I mean wudnt u start doubting or sum,and if someone is the "one" for you how do u know? What if u dont like that person but someone else that isnt the "one".
Its confusing for me,i cant smply say to someone i love you bcuz i dont know whether i really do or not,but what does it take for me to get to say i love you to someone and really mean it?
Im confused :(

I guess the jist of this is: How does one know who is "the one"?

I think this is where the fairy tale ending of "Happily ever after" screws with how we perceive the real world. In some ways you may never really know. A relationship takes effort to maintain. Most often people have some fairly strong emotions that overwhelm the head when they are getting started on a relationship. To put it simply, you not only have to love the person you actually have to like them too! That is to say, that the person is worthy of your respect and will have earned it.
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GarrettNCCC
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Luthien: In answer to how do you know? It kind of sneaks up on you!

For me, soon after my husband and I started dating, it seemed we became best friends and it was like we'd known each other forever. Best friends look out for each other. A best friend likes and accepts you for who you are. They can know you better than you know yourself sometimes and help bring out the best in you. A true best friend is someone you can trust (sometimes more than you trust yourself), someone who unselfishly keeps your best interests at heart. It's hard to pinpoint when I realized that I was in love. I just remember thinking one day that I couldn't imagine going through life without my best friend and that there was no one else I'd rather share my life with. (Seems he'd already decided this; I was the slow one and he was the patient one...)

Look for those qualities that last, for a relationship to last a lifetime. And as others have already said, one day you'll just know.
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Luthien:
We have told our kids that when they feel really comfortable with the person able to be completely honest with them , then they have probably found the right person.

There is more to it than just "feelings" and finding the person "exciting".

You will know when you've found the right person for you - you might even be lucky enough to find a sole-mate.

You've heaps of time - don't be in such a rush.

Also - relax about it - these things have a habit of working out by themselves - you'll probably find the right person without even expecting it.
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Fesarius
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Luthien,

And if/when you become infatuated with someone, just remember that that wears off, and is based on irrationality. It's what's left that is best, and it is upon what is left that one builds a relationship. :)
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gdog243
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I'm free and single, and loving it. :D
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~Luthien~
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I can live with being single right now bcuz i cant really keep up a relationship anyways with the condition im in,i just wondered bcuz a lot of my friends actually all of them do already date and they seem to be having fun and all is going fine for em but when i date i doubt i doubt a whole damn lot,thats why i always break up with someone bcuz i doubt.
And i just wondered if u can already think like that on 17 years of age,bcuz some of my friends do,and its probably possible but the whole loving someone thing is just really hard for me bcuz i cant even love myself.

But thanks everyone for answering my question,at least i know a little bit more now =)
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Why worry about loving someone now? You have the reest of your life to fine 'the one', what's the rush?
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~Luthien~
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theres no rush really but theres a thread about it now and im just wondering.
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Fair enough.
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TrekkieBez
Sep 12 2004, 03:58 PM
Data's Cat's Sister
Sep 12 2004, 11:44 AM
As of today I am officially sick and tired of being single and I am on the lookout for a relationship. It got me wondering how all of you met your significant other and I wondered if you had any tips for meeting new people, flirting and so on.

I'm single right now, but my last partner (Chris) was someone I considered to be waaaaay out of my league, who asked me out of the blue.

My longest relationship lasted about a year and a half, and we were friends long before that. :)

?? Who is Chris Bez? Are you a guy?
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Drex
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Sep 20 2004, 05:03 PM
?? Who is Chris Bez? Are you a guy?

WB Gabe!
:wave: :wave: :wave:

Yeah, I'm a guy. You knew that anyways. ;)

Chris is my partner. If you wanna ask anything else, I'd appreciate you keeping it to PM, please. :)
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