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| How did you meet your partner?; Looking to pick up some tips. | |
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| Fesarius | Sep 14 2004, 07:45 AM Post #31 |
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Dandandat, That was great! BTW, I stayed at home for the first five months when our first child was born. I can't think of too much else I'd rather do, but I chose a somewhat different path (and decided instead to work outside the home). |
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| jjtrek | Sep 14 2004, 02:19 PM Post #32 |
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Dan! Loved that illustrated history! LOL!! I know I've written this here before, but this is how my hubby and I met: This takes place long before AOL, when it was called Quantum Link (Q-Link). I ran the Star Trek area and hubby was a weekly guest in my chat room on Friday nights. This was back in the mid '80's. We found we had alot of other interests in common and decided to exchange phone numbers. We spent about a year or so burning up AT&T (He lived in Erie, PA and I lived in NYC). Next, we decided to visit on weekend trips to each other's homes. Well, one thing let to another and it became moving day for me. In 1992, I left NYC and moved in with hubby in Erie. Yes, folks, we were living in sin for 2 years! Considering we were both in our 30's at that point, there was no immaturity issue. Fear not, for on 9/17/94, we were married. This Friday is our 10th anniversary. Now, I'm not saying the internet is the ideal place to meet people, but with a little intelligence and maturity, it can be a great place to meet others. Just use caution and ALWAYS have that first meeting in a public place. Hubby and I first met at the Port Authority Bus Terminal in Manhattan. Can't get any more public than that! Joining groups with common interests (online or offline) is a key to meeting new faces. Hope this helped! Julia (always glad to be of assistance) |
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| TribbleMom | Sep 14 2004, 09:12 PM Post #33 |
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My partner and I met through a dance class I was teaching. Conversations over a few dinners told us we had a lot in common. Perhaps something like a class (dance, art, exercise, literary club) or workshop might offer an opportunity to meet someone with similar interests -- that way you'd at least have one thing in common to build on. |
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| GarrettNCCC | Sep 14 2004, 09:58 PM Post #34 |
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Dan: Very creative. Kudos! In answer to the original poster's question: My husband and I met at college in the cafeteria. He was sitting at a table with some friends I knew and he had a science fiction novel out. I joined the table and said, "I see you like science fiction, so do you like Star Trek?" He replied, "No, I like SCIENCE FICTION!" At least this gave us something to talk about! We dated for a little more than three years and were married the week after I graduated. 25 years and three kids later, he humors my trekkie-dom. He takes over the kids and heads off other distractions whenever a new episode is on so I can enjoy it, tapes it for me when I'm away, buys me the books as gifts, goes with me when the new ST movies come out - but still is not a fan himself. I know he's pretty special and I'm very lucky! So you certainly don't have to have everything in common or agree on everything to have a successful relationship. Valuing and respecting the differences make for lasting relationships and also make life interesting... |
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| somerled | Sep 15 2004, 07:37 AM Post #35 |
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TribbleMom: What kind of dance class ? There are lots (but you know that). |
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| TribbleMom | Sep 15 2004, 08:04 AM Post #36 |
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Actually it was a country line dancing and 2-stepping class that I taught for about 7 or 8 years in a little hole-in-the-wall country bar. Denver started out as a cow town, so there's lots of western influence still present here. I had also taken some lessons in ballroom dance and swing, but I never taught those styles. |
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| somerled | Sep 15 2004, 08:58 AM Post #37 |
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^^ :offtopic: Two-steps , yep I've learnt a few of them in my time. Some line dances and mixers too. Some of them are pretty fancy. We used to learn the figures and then just dance to the music. Now the round dancers who like two steps and the like - are aways cued by a caller. I think it detracts a bit. The dancers aren't dancing to the music so much as just following the cuer's calls and it's hard sometimes to here the music over the cuer. Not as good - but that's my opinion - maybe I expect too much of other dancers in that regard - it's not that hard once you learn the steps and movements and then to learn a dance afterall (we used to do it that way in the 70s and 80s). Heck - I learnt a lot of round dances and mixers and two steps and the like by getting up there with a girl and strategically positioning us between two couples who already knew the dance and aping them and trying to avoid being tripped over or stood on - it worked for me and girls I used to dance with back then, and was pretty funny to watch. Sometimes you would get a walk through and tricky bits only would be cued but this only happened if it was a new dance or it was requested. More often than not a demo would be given so you could see how it hung together, then there would be a walk through, and that was all you got. END :offtopic: |
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| ~Luthien~ | Sep 16 2004, 04:20 AM Post #38 |
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I dun have a partner and i dont see me ending up with one any time soon so uhm i dunnow
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| somerled | Sep 16 2004, 06:26 AM Post #39 |
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^^ Don't worry - it'll happen. |
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| Minuet | Sep 16 2004, 02:04 PM Post #40 |
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You are young and should be concentrating on school right now anyways. You have lots of time to fall in love later. |
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| Dr. Noah | Sep 16 2004, 02:17 PM Post #41 |
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Besides, most guys are pretty immature until their mid-20s. (And even then, we're a rare breed.) |
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| Swidden | Sep 17 2004, 12:49 AM Post #42 |
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My wife and I have known each other since we were kids. Our families have known each other for a couple of generations. Her brother has been one of my best friends for more than 20 years. Well, to make the long story short, she returned to our mutual home town after college. Most often we would attend the same Mass on Sundays (see Somerled, church is good for something
) and took to striking up conversations, which led to decisions to get together after Mass (such as going fishing), which turned into longer outings. Somwhere along the way hanging out became dating... The rest as they say is history.DCS, and other interested parties, the important thing is to not take too seriously the idea that you're looking for someone. For me, things came together with my wife when I wasn't trying. |
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| somerled | Sep 17 2004, 07:10 AM Post #43 |
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Trying too hard - that's a turn off. Better just to be natural and approachable , and to let things move at their own pace. |
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| ~Luthien~ | Sep 17 2004, 07:22 AM Post #44 |
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I got a question though bcuz i cant get how pple can say i love you to their partner.Which feeling shud u have bfore u can finally say I love you and really mean it? I mean wudnt u start doubting or sum,and if someone is the "one" for you how do u know? What if u dont like that person but someone else that isnt the "one". Its confusing for me,i cant smply say to someone i love you bcuz i dont know whether i really do or not,but what does it take for me to get to say i love you to someone and really mean it? Im confused
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| TribbleMom | Sep 17 2004, 08:04 AM Post #45 |
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Luthien, those are very good questions, but they don't have easy answers. I'm afraid there are really no clearly-defined guidelines for knowing when you're in love. I guess you could figure you're in love when the other person's welfare and happiness are more important to you than your own. And as for knowing who the "right one" is, well, in my case I would ask myself if this was the person I wanted to be with for the next 50 years of my life. If I couldn't answer yes to that, then that person probably wasn't "the one," even if they did have many of the qualities I was looking for. Sometimes you have to date quite a few people before the right one happens across your path. Oh, and for Data's Cat's Sister -- it happened for me too while I wasn't trying to find someone. I'd just simply decided to go on along being myself and being OK with just me being me .... and all of a sudden I did meet that person that I wanted to spend the next 50 years with. Of course, in 50 years we'll both probably be senile and unable to remember who we are ....
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) and took to striking up conversations, which led to decisions to get together after Mass (such as going fishing), which turned into longer outings. Somwhere along the way hanging out became dating... The rest as they say is history.
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