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What would u have done?; give me all ur best advise
Topic Started: Nov 29 2005, 02:27 AM (124 Views)
Agent_J
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ok, well me and my gf is having problems. we just meet like not that long, like two months or so but we have been having lots of problems. like we already broke up three times already. because she ask me to join this world game (that includes chatting) but since we have join it we have been fighting about the ppl i meet there. but when either one of us is not there we are cool and talk all nite long. but idk. she just got me nuts. im failing my classes, and havent gotten any sleep for a while because i dont want us to break up yet. she just means too much to me, like i pour my heart oh her, and i guess she gets kinda over protective, and on the game lots of the ppl i know are girls too, so i guess she is mad because of that. but since then i have been drinking bad. i know why risk so much, well i never been in love and i guess i am. but idk what to do, and the sad this is that we live across the state, yea me in cali and she is in NY :cry:

but i dont just want to drop her yet u know, im not obsessing or anything like that but i really do love her but she just keeps on getting mad how i know so many girls, and yes i admit i have said some bad things and done some too but i never really though of it because i though since she was my gf she wont mind if i talk to other ppl and have some of my space, but she wants my full attention on her. so i gotta give it, and idk, lol just fools rushed in i guess

and now we broke up again and i just let her go so what do i do? and she know she cant either, but should i just give her time or something?

so got any advise for me?
how to handle it and stuff
thx
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Well...
The nice thing about dating, is that it is sort of like a buffet. If on your first go-'round you don't like the broccoli, you don't have to get it on the next run.
Obviously hormones are playing a big part here.
My personal suggestion?
For a relationship this new, you are obviously having too many problems.
GENTLY let her go.

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how about stop playin that game...

pay more attention to her...even tho theres other girls around...but being far apart physically...you hafta make a stronger emotional bond to make up for it....she's probably nagging ya cuz she loves u too, and wants u to focus on her

i dunno...good luck, bro

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This is all about you, John. What do you want? Do you want to keep your classes from failing? Then let her know and if she loves you, she'll understand.

Do you want the relationship to not have problems that lead you to drinking? Let her know that is doing damage.

Also, she wants your full attention on her and she hates it when you talk to other girls... Let me put it this way, any girl would be behaving the same way if they had their favorite idol as their boyfriend. heh
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Agent_J
Nov 29 2005, 08:27 AM
... and have some of my space, but she wants my full attention on her...
as Vic said maybe hormones are playing a big part here?!
i think everyone needs enough of own space in every relationship. otherwise you'll never be able to feel lucky.
in this one you are harming yourself - is it worth it? no man, no boy/girl is worth this! compromises have to be done in most relationships (and that's ok) but this seems to be badly onesided in your case.

Vic said everything what you need to know (my opinion).

i wish you good luck John and the necessary power to handle this situation.
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lol
thx u guys
wow gotta love ur opinions
next time ill ask u ppl first

and thx
we got together again
yea i suck
but she is hot :love:

and she knows how to handle my account better
lol


but thx and we decided to compromise this time
but thx u all
u been great
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dude
i dont wanna be like an a$$hole or anything and im not sure how old you are..

love is one h*ll of a word to use it and say it like ur calling ur dog...

honestly...with 2 months...you fall in love with a grl...that's pretty...fast...
man i dont know...you can be sincere, be good to her, chill alot, just think about her, and other things in 2 months...can you honestly think that you can move that ahead of yourself by calling it a love?

i think you really care about this girl. And I also believe that things can work out. But if she is taking your time to the point, where you cant have your own space, failing in school and put you to drinking problem...then maybe it's an one sided relationship.

relationship only works if both side is willing to give up their part. And if you are the only one losing things...then that's not a love. Love in your perspective...but not in hers.

Love is like a contract...offer, consideration...both got to be there...I see that you gave her your offer and consideration...obviously she doesnt want to accept it.

As Seoul said...slowly...yet gently...move your heart away...
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Nov 30 2005, 11:46 AM
dude
i dont wanna be like an a$$hole or anything and im not sure how old you are..

love is one h*ll of a word to use it and say it like ur calling ur dog...

honestly...with 2 months...you fall in love with a grl...that's pretty...fast...
man i dont know...you can be sincere, be good to her, chill alot, just think about her, and other things in 2 months...can you honestly think that you can move that ahead of yourself by calling it a love?

i think you really care about this girl. And I also believe that things can work out. But if she is taking your time to the point, where you cant have your own space, failing in school and put you to drinking problem...then maybe it's an one sided relationship.

relationship only works if both side is willing to give up their part. And if you are the only one losing things...then that's not a love. Love in your perspective...but not in hers.

Love is like a contract...offer, consideration...both got to be there...I see that you gave her your offer and consideration...obviously she doesnt want to accept it.

As Seoul said...slowly...yet gently...move your heart away...

well actually i am scared of the word love
but i just seem to love to use it on her because she makes me feel good
like happy u know
like when a person is there for u
that supports u in what u do
and say its wrong when ur doing something wrong
a person that sticks up for u
i had lots of gf (not braging)
and none of them made me feel as good as she does
idk maybe im just going nuts but i believe in her
and in us too

but thx u guys but i think ill stick with her for now :D
its just my heart
lol
i know about love dude but and what it can do
but u do gotta still stick together a try it out
u never know
she might acutally be the one for me

but thx for u all worryen about me
its good to know
:D
laters y all
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That World game wouldn't happen to be World of Warcraft? I know it's a great game, but take it from an internet junkie who's been there; drop the habit NOW. You'll save your grades, your health, and your money.

And if you're increasing your committment towards a relationship, you'll have to shift your existing female friends towards casual acquaintances, where they're more a support group for your primary relationship, instead of a side distraction. It's a difficult trade, but hopefully worth it.

On the chance you're "on" again, take the 10 extra bucks a month from World of Warcraft, and get a mobile-to-mobile phone plan.

There's also those sayings where love is putting others ahead of yourself. When it goes both ways, it's magic.
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Angus Mac
Nov 30 2005, 05:46 AM
That
World game wouldn't happen to be World of Warcraft? I know it's a great
game, but take it from an internet junkie who's been there; drop the
habit NOW. You'll save your grades, your health, and your money.
And if you're increasing your committment towards a relationship,
you'll have to shift your existing female friends towards casual
acquaintances, where they're more a support group for your primary
relationship, instead of a side distraction. It's a difficult trade,
but hopefully worth it.
On the chance you're "on" again, take the 10 extra bucks a month from
World of Warcraft, and get a mobile-to-mobile phone plan.

Angus, how can you be so sharp, and have such an odd little nose??

//Seoul
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Angus Mac
Nov 30 2005, 02:46 PM
That World game wouldn't happen to be World of Warcraft? I know it's a great game, but take it from an internet junkie who's been there; drop the habit NOW. You'll save your grades, your health, and your money.

And if you're increasing your committment towards a relationship, you'll have to shift your existing female friends towards casual acquaintances, where they're more a support group for your primary relationship, instead of a side distraction. It's a difficult trade, but hopefully worth it.

On the chance you're "on" again, take the 10 extra bucks a month from World of Warcraft, and get a mobile-to-mobile phone plan.

There's also those sayings where love is putting others ahead of yourself. When it goes both ways, it's magic.

lol
no its not world warcaft
its a game sponsed by disney land
its pretty cool actually.
its called
Virtual Magical Kingdom
or VMK
but watch out if full of little kids
lol
and its got a curfew to it too from 7 am - 10 pm west coast time
and 10 am - 1 am east coast time
(in united states coasts)
but if u ppl sign up
refer me
princeshinlyarmor
lol
yup gay but u gotta love
and if lucky u might meet my girl Pandi on there too

but any comments just ask
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