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Reasons why you should not date; your best friend's ex?
Tweet Topic Started: Sep 5 2004, 11:37 PM (371 Views)
Naruta-chan	Sep 5 2004, 11:37 PM Post #1
Postaholic Posts: 837 Group: Advanced Members Member #1,613 Joined: December 20, 2003	this is came across me...cauz like 4 months ago (i think)...my very good friend, childhood friend, or close friend, or however u may call it--"best friend" broke up with this guy and she got another bf. I knew him too since highschool. he's a very funny guy. He can sing! and he's a very good person. recently, he's been joking around when playfully asking me out. He did that several times...though each time i also jokingly (i meant it though) said "no, im not available"..ad pointed to the other guy who is available. hahaha. yea..hes a total sweetheart...but i just dont wanna go with him for the fact that he's my best friend's ex..thogh she doesnt like him anymore. I'm not too sure why...but something just tell me that it isnt too to do so. so, can u guys tell me the reasons why you shouldnt date ur best friend's ex?
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Seoul Survivor	Sep 6 2004, 12:04 AM Post #2
Thanks Jay! Posts: 3,000 Group: Member Member #6 Joined: June 21, 2003	Val, why not ask your friend, why she broke up with the guy? Obviously you're not seeing something that she saw. If her reasons are weak, probe around a little. Ask for more details. Find out what happened. From what you say, he sounds magnificent. But she seems to see something you don't. She's your friend. So hopefully she'll be honest with you. //Seoul



Michyu Girl	Sep 6 2004, 12:01 PM Post #3
Don't test me. Posts: 4,732 Group: Member Member #3,315 Joined: April 14, 2004	Well, there's always the fear of, "My best friend will SKEWER me if I date her ex!!" I don't understand it, but meh... >_< I've never had a boyfriend, so! XD Yeah, I agree with Vic up there. Ask your friend. Of course, it might've been something she did, or it might've just been a loss of interest. A break-up doesn't always mean one person in the relationship was a jerk. She might've gotten interested in someone else, their personalities might've started to clash a little, etc. After you find out the reason (and it doesn't bother you), ask her how she would feel if you dated him. AND GET THE REAL ANSWER! If she says, "I'd be okay with it," but seems a little...edgy about it or whatever, DON'T! That could be the end of a friendship right there. (COULD be, not necessarily WOULD be) Just opinion, mind you~! ^-^
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AMR	Sep 6 2004, 12:50 PM Post #4
Overlord Posts: 9,467 Group: Admin Member #1 Joined: June 21, 2003	Id ask your friend if she would be ok with it.. why let your friend stop two more people from being happy?
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Seoul Survivor	Sep 6 2004, 12:58 PM Post #5
Thanks Jay! Posts: 3,000 Group: Member Member #6 Joined: June 21, 2003	DoubleD Sep 6 2004, 04:50 PM Id ask your friend if she would be ok with it.. why let your friend stop two more people from being happy? Because David, maybe she knows something, that isn't obvious. Maybe his idea of a fun date, is going to the junk yard, and getting chased by the dog. Maybe he has his little sister hanging upside down, in the basement, and reads Edwin's old poetry to her for giggles. The breakup, as Kim said (paraphrasing) may have been nothing, but it might be something important. Kim's idea, about seeing how comfortable the ex is, with Val dating the guy is also a very good idea, assuming the ex is a friend worth keeping. //Seoul



AMR	Sep 6 2004, 01:11 PM Post #6
Overlord Posts: 9,467 Group: Admin Member #1 Joined: June 21, 2003	well everyone has different tastes you will never know unless you try. but ok.
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Seoul Survivor	Sep 6 2004, 03:15 PM Post #7
Thanks Jay! Posts: 3,000 Group: Member Member #6 Joined: June 21, 2003	DoubleD Sep 6 2004, 05:11 PM well everyone has different tastes you will never know unless you try. but ok. Alright, I have to ask, even tho I know I'm going to regret this: Which are you referring to David? Would you rather be chased by the junkyard dog, or hung upside down in the basement, and having Edwin's old poems read to you?? (J/P!!) //Seoul



Naruta-chan	Sep 7 2004, 04:09 AM Post #8
Postaholic Posts: 837 Group: Advanced Members Member #1,613 Joined: December 20, 2003	lol...sorry for confusing you guys..but u guys got the wrong idea. I only think of him as a friend. all of my guy friends are good people..which doesnt necessarily mean that i should date all of them. some people are just better off as friends. He is a really good person...and i think the reason for their broke up is because she lost interest in him. he's a pretty funny guy and we get along very well....always joking around with each other. though i've found him being serious (though he's not showing it) with this subject. I dont like him or have a special interest in him or anything. i think if i give him the chance maybe i'll feel something for him. but I dont think i should do that..cuz it's just weird...it's my friend's ex. for me, it's sorta like my friend doesnt find her underwear comfortable anymore or that she doesnt like it (that the new underwear she bought is much nicer)...and she gave it to me. I apologize for the vivid description. and just curious if other ppl have something else to say to this...or if i'm too strict with this.
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Seoul Survivor	Sep 7 2004, 11:23 AM Post #9
Thanks Jay! Posts: 3,000 Group: Member Member #6 Joined: June 21, 2003	Too strick? No. Dating someone you're not interested in, just to see if a spark will light is also not the bestest of ideas. Keep this one as a friend, and continue shopping. //Seoul



Michyu Girl	Sep 7 2004, 06:21 PM Post #10
Don't test me. Posts: 4,732 Group: Member Member #3,315 Joined: April 14, 2004	^ I concur. I mean, I don't see how going on "friendly dates" would be a problem (that's a much better way to see if a spark will light!), but don't "go steady" (ol' sk00l terminology) if you don't like him like that. And I see what you mean by the underwear comment! (That's actually happened to me~! XD I'd explain, but meh... XD [And, no, I didn't keep the undies. I threw them away! EW!!!])
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Naruta-chan	Sep 8 2004, 03:42 AM Post #11
Postaholic Posts: 837 Group: Advanced Members Member #1,613 Joined: December 20, 2003	lol...what happened kim? why would anybody do that?
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Angel	Sep 8 2004, 08:50 PM Post #12
C_Beyond ((chunsa oppa)) Posts: 10,993 Group: Admin Member #8 Joined: June 22, 2003	vietpucca Sep 7 2004, 04:09 AM for me, it's sorta like my friend doesnt find her underwear comfortable anymore or that she doesnt like it (that the new underwear she bought is much nicer)...and she gave it to me. I apologize for the vivid description. -_^ ...i don't understand....i think ur gonna hafta post pics of this. hehe...i think Kim pretty much got it right on the ball, with a good answer.



Seoul Survivor	Sep 8 2004, 11:00 PM Post #13
Thanks Jay! Posts: 3,000 Group: Member Member #6 Joined: June 21, 2003	Angel Sep 9 2004, 12:50 AM -_^ ...i don't understand....i think ur gonna hafta post pics of this. TOAD!!!!!!



Michyu Girl	Sep 9 2004, 05:37 PM Post #14
Don't test me. Posts: 4,732 Group: Member Member #3,315 Joined: April 14, 2004	vietpucca Sep 8 2004, 01:42 AM lol...what happened kim? why would anybody do that? ...Eh... It's a weird story... XD DON'T READ IF YOU'RE SQUEAMISH!! XD Okay, my EX-friend decided to clean out her closet and gave me the things she didn't wear because they were "too tight" for her. (In other words, they might look like they actually fit...) Anyway, all of the clothes were baggy on me. >_> She also told me, "By the way, I have some bras and panties in there if you want them." My thoughts: OMGOSH!! HOW DISGUSTING!!! >_______<;; So, I tried on the CLOTHES (minus undies), and found them to either baggy or too big. No surprise there. >_> Anyway, then my mom started looking at the bras and stuff and was like, "Why did she even bother including these? You're obviously smaller than she is!" "She says we're the same size." funny look from mom "And since when have you been able to wear a size omitted? You're a size omitted. Either way, the inches around were smaller!" So, when I told the EX-friend about it, she got mad at me. Of course, she didn't flat out yell at me, but she acted like she had a grudge for a few days. So, as you can see, this CAN relate to this situation, as your friend might react like my EX-friend did. (The "Grrr!" Factor, or "G"-F!) Or, she could react like some people would with the clothes: "Oh, really? laugh Yeah, you are pretty skinny! Maybe you should eat more? laugh" (This is either "Joke Around to Hide Shame/Embarrassment/Anger/Bad Emotion" Factor, or "JH"-F, or "Honestly Joking" Factor, or "HJ"-F!) Or, there could be this reaction: "How about that? So, anyway, I downloaded this video..." (This is either the "I could care less as this thing I want to talk about is WAY more important" Factor ["CCL"-F] or the "Well, let's ignore it and hope it goes away" Factor ["IGA"-F]) Man, I am so weird... I over analyze things tooooo much, don't I? XD I should be an English teacher... XD
	You can be so open minded that your brain falls out. 'Cause my Jesus would never be accepted in my church. The blood and dirt on his feet might stain the carpet. Finally, someone tells the truth. Banner credits to Kimmy37.


Seoul Survivor	Sep 10 2004, 12:14 AM Post #15
Thanks Jay! Posts: 3,000 Group: Member Member #6 Joined: June 21, 2003	Kim, I don't know if I would go into all those details about underwear, with Angelo around. He may not be able to concentrate on work for a month or two!! (heheheheheheh!!!!) //Seoul



shouling	Sep 10 2004, 12:48 AM Post #16
Bumble Bee Tuna Posts: 2,330 Group: Member Member #1,959 Joined: December 28, 2003	agreed that giving unerwear away is wrong~! no way could i EVER wear undies that someone else has worn. wether its my best friend or not... its just not cool. o.k. now i am all grossed out... shivers
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Michyu Girl	Sep 10 2004, 06:19 PM Post #17
Don't test me. Posts: 4,732 Group: Member Member #3,315 Joined: April 14, 2004	Seoul Survivor Sep 9 2004, 10:14 PM Kim, I don't know if I would go into all those details about underwear, with Angelo around. He may not be able to concentrate on work for a month or two!! Won't be able to concentrate because..... ... He'll be too busy throwing up in the bathroom? XD Or stabbing his mind's eye out with an imaginary fork? Or stabbing his real eyes out with a real fork? XDDDDD Gosh, man... I feel so bad... I got this topic WAY off track... XD So, anyway... Dating your best friend's ex... XD Ask you're friend! Yeah! Good idea~! ^-^
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Angel	Sep 11 2004, 02:19 AM Post #18
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Naruta-chan	Sep 12 2004, 03:00 AM Post #19
Postaholic Posts: 837 Group: Advanced Members Member #1,613 Joined: December 20, 2003	it's alright with the underwear thing...^__^ it's pretty funny. I dunno, i guess i'm a pretty selfish person when it comes to relationship. For me, my best friend(s) and I can share anything...but when it comes to bfs, i'm sorry but I can't share him. cuz he's something very very precious to me. And i dont like to take the things that were once precious to her. Cuz, it's "her"...it has "her" written all over it. I want something that i can keep for myself. I want the bf to be my own thing...a person that is too special and unique to share him with anybody else. lol...yeA..pretty greedy of me, but bfs, husbands or whoever "let go my ego"
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Seoul Survivor	Sep 12 2004, 11:43 AM Post #20
Thanks Jay! Posts: 3,000 Group: Member Member #6 Joined: June 21, 2003	Dunno if I agree with you here, Val. We're not talking about taking away somebody's active b/f. They broke up right? So it isn't like you're stealing. As to having "her" written all over him, unless he's tattooed, I don't agree. As to the underwear topic, well, you see, our hero Angelo get's all dizzy when he thinks of female underwear. He's been known to have trouble breathing. I'm told he once received a Victoria's Secret catalog in the mail, by accident, and was in intensive care for three weeks. We almost lost him! //Seoul



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